Let’s explore our relationships

What did the relationships around you look like growing up? What do the relationships you see around you look like now? And what have your own relationships looked like?

I remember the first time I saw two adults — people who could have been my parents — look at each other with eyes full of love. It was the first time I had ever seen two people truly adore one another, and treat each other with genuine respect and tenderness. I was 17. And it stayed with me forever, because it was so beautiful — and because I hadn’t known, until that moment, that it was possible.

Imagine what it would feel like to be treated like the most important person in the world — not just in the room, but in someone’s whole world — every single day.

Imagine your partner looking at you with adoration. Imagine looking back at them and seeing someone extraordinary, and treating them that way too.

This is not a fantasy. This is something you get to decide.

You set the tone for your life. You get to choose how you wish to be treated — and how you treat others.

No matter what has come before — what you’ve experienced, what you’ve witnessed, how you’ve been treated or how you’ve treated others — you can learn to set a new tone from here.

It doesn’t matter if you are gay or straight, queer, trans*, non-binary, monogamous or polyamorous. You have free will, and this is your life.

Today, at least in some corners of the world, and wherever we are in our own minds and among the right people, we have the freedom to choose our partners, define our relationships, and decide how we want to be loved.

Today, you have the power to redefine what a loving relationship looks like — for you, on your own terms.

All it takes is becoming consciously aware of your options, finding your role models and inspirations, getting clear on how you want to feel and be treated — and then beginning to practice living that reality, until it becomes yours.

What has made relationships so complicated for so many of us is the invisible weight we carry into them: struggles with self-worth and self-love, unspoken expectations, cycles of hope and disappointment, and ways of communicating — or not communicating — that we learned long before we knew we were learning them.

Subconscious fears and beliefs that quietly shape everything, often without us even realising it.

So in this chapter, we start there. We look at your past, tend to old wounds, and gently clear the blocks and patterns that may have been holding you back from the love you truly desire.

I know this work is possible — because I’ve done it myself. I’ve experienced mistreatment, difficult relationships, and painful chapters of my own. And I also know what becomes available on the other side of that healing.

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School, you’ll explore your desires — including the secret ones — and the subconscious beliefs that may have been quietly keeping you from them.

You’ll learn how to make peace with past relationships and experiences, build the self-love, confidence, and communication skills you need to thrive, and finally allow yourself to have, feel, and experience everything you’ve been longing for.

Your past is like the wake behind a boat — visible, real, but not what’s driving you forward.

You are the driving force. And from here, you get to choose the direction.

Not based on your past. Based on your desires.

This is your life – and I invite you to create it joyfully & consciously.

Is this chapter for you?

In short: is it time to finally show up as your full self in your relationships — so that your needs are met, your love flows freely, and you get to build the partnerships you’ve always dreamed of?

If you’re ready for that transformation — ready to be treated as the god_dess you truly are — then I’d love to welcome you to this chapter of the CREATRIX School.

RELATIONSHIPS chapter

Learn to create the intimacy and relationships you truly long for.

In this chapter (or 4-week course), you’ll explore your desires, your subconscious beliefs when it comes to love, yourself, and what a realtionship looks like, and how to make peace with past relationships and experiences.

You’ll build the self-love, confidence, and communication skills you need to call in — or deepen — the relationships you truly wish to have.

Because the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every love story that follows.

And if you like, you can also get a certificate for completing this chapter.

extras

The Colour for this chapter is: grey

Acceptance, Equality & (self)Respect

Find the quiet balance between yourself and the world.

Grey energy supports you in honouring your truth while respecting others, helping you move through life with acceptance, equality, and inner peace.

From this balance, a deeper harmony can emerge.

→ Learn how to activate your Grey energy to create more inner and outer peace.

A Note From Me to You

The guidance I needed didn’t come from another person. It came from within.

And the very first thing it taught me was how to say: “No.”

My whole life began to change from there.

Until that moment, I had been quietly pleading for someone to be kind to me — not yet understanding that the someone I was waiting for would have to be me.

That I first had to say no to what I no longer wanted, before I could say yes to what I truly desired.

If you’re tired of waiting for things to change, and ready to start showing up for yourself — I’m here to guide you, and to share everything I’ve learned along the way.

I know that liking yourself — let alone loving yourself — can feel almost impossible when most of what you’ve heard, experienced, or absorbed tells you that you’re not quite enough.

Not loveable enough, not worthy enough, not important enough.

If you grew up with punishment or anger as a response to mistakes, you’ve likely internalised that pattern — and now direct it at yourself, blaming yourself when things go wrong rather than seeing those moments as opportunities to grow.

If you grew up with resentment, silence, suppressed emotions, overwhelmed parents, or unspoken trauma, your nervous system learned to stay on high alert — always scanning the room, always bracing for something.

If any of this resonates, then this is your invitation to heal. Not to keep reliving variations of the past, but to gently retune your nervous system to a new reality — one in which you are safe, and loved.

I’ll be sharing more of my personal story throughout the lessons in this chapter.

And while I’ve been through a great deal, you won’t find me blaming anyone for what happened.

Not the adults around me growing up, who didn’t have the capacity to love me in ways that made me feel seen or like I mattered. Not the partners who didn’t treat me well.

And here’s why: if I don’t take full responsibility for my past — if I don’t look honestly at what led me to those experiences — I won’t be able to truly change things for myself going forward.

The same is true for you.

Blaming others can feel easier, even justified.

But energetically, it keeps us powerless. When we begin to see that our souls chose certain patterns for us to resolve in this lifetime — and that the people involved were playing their part in giving us that opportunity — we can actually move through things quickly, and move on to something better.

What keeps us stuck is anger, resentment, and blame.

To be free, we have to be willing to release what energetically binds us to the past — including the need to be right, and the wish that things had been different.

And that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to meet your younger self with love and compassion. You do. Because there was never anything wrong with you.

You came here to heal — and that is something worth honouring.

When you begin to understand what your experiences were for, you may even start to find a kind of beauty in them. I did. And that’s exactly why I’m here — so you don’t have to walk this path alone. 🤍

I’ll be honest with you about one more thing: I won’t be sharing a love story about finding my perfect partner and living happily ever after — because that’s not where I am right now.

And truthfully, for the first time in my life, I feel such a deep love and appreciation for myself that I’m not in any rush.

And that, in a way, is the whole point.

When we feel like we need something desperately, we push it away.

So I’m here to show you how to reach a place where you don’t need a relationship to feel whole and happy — and from that place of fullness, watch what begins to flow toward you.

I’m here to help you break out of harmful relationship patterns — the ones we develop when we haven’t grown up with unconditional love — and to help you value yourself so deeply that you simply won’t allow anyone into your life who doesn’t meet you there.

Because that’s really all it takes.

One thing I hear often — on TV, in real life, everywhere — that always breaks my heart a little: when someone excuses a partner’s unkindness by saying, “Well, I’m not easy to be with either.”

Let me be very clear: you do not have to earn the right to be treated with kindness and respect. It is not something you prove yourself worthy of. It is the bare minimum — in any loving relationship, full stop.

If someone isn’t treating you with love, care, and the best of intentions, that says something about their own healing journey — not about your worth.

You can hold compassion for them, from a safe distance. But no one has the right to treat you badly.

And if you find yourself treating others that way, it’s not a reason for shame — it’s simply a signal that there’s more healing to do.

We’ll work on all of this together.

Because here’s what becomes possible when we do: trust.

Real trust — in ourselves first, and then in others. The ability to feel genuinely safe, to relax, and to enjoy being with another person without waiting for something to go wrong.

And from there? Magic. Kindness, gentleness, honesty, adventure, sensuality, and love that is truly free — not based on need or fear, but on genuine abundance.

I started this journey simply because I wanted to feel a little healthier and a little happier.

That quiet wish turned into years of research and training, and eventually into becoming the guide and coach I am today.

I hold an M.A. in cultural anthropology and political sciences — how people navigate their inner and outer worlds has always fascinated me.

But the most transformative things I’ve learned didn’t come from university. They came from lived experience, honest self-inquiry, and the discovery that with just a few specific shifts in how we think and act, everything can change.

For anyone willing to be honest with themselves, this is true.

If you’d like to know more about my formal background, you can find it on the about page.

We can all live abundant, happy, and healthy lives — and we can all open up to love. All it takes is learning how, and then practicing it.

We begin by building a loving relationship with ourselves — tuning into our desires, becoming more confident, and learning, perhaps for the first time, how to truly receive.

Whether you’re hoping to meet a great love, deepen a relationship you’re already in, or simply finally feel at home in yourself — I can literally sense your soul nodding yes — I would love to guide you through this.

Into your fullest, most radiant self. Your qu_ing self, because the love you’re looking for may be closer than you think.

If you want to experience this for yourself, then I can’t wait to welcome you to the CREATRIX School — and to our wonderful, growing community of people who dare to be generous, happy, and free.

The CREATRIX School is designed to help you find clarity, confidence and connection in all areas of your life – so you can, actually, start creating the life of your dreams.

A new chapter starts with every new moon, and there are thirteen chapters altogether. You can get a certificate for each chapter you complete, and you can see the order of the chapters here.

There are different options for you to join to make the CREATRIX School available for any budget.

If you join the CREATRIX School for a year, you get access to all 13 chapters (Thirteen 4-week courses), including this one once they are released.

The RELATIONSHIPS Chapter comes as a 157-page PDF workbook consisting of 12 lessons, each including exercises, explanations and examples. The lessons are accompanied by a ritual, a practice, a playlist, a recipe and a colour, to help to anchor what you learn in this chapter into your life.

This chapter can also be bought individually for €25 here.