Let’s explore our relationships

What did the relationships look like that you saw growing up?

And what do relationships look like that you see around you now? And what have your own relationships looked like?

I remember the first time I saw two adults, people who could have been my parents, look at each other with eyes full of love.

It was the first time I saw two people adore each other, and treat each other with the utmost respect. I was 17 at the time, and it stayed with me forever, because it was so beautiful.

Imagine what it would feel like to be treated like the most important person, not just in the room, but in the world, every day.

Imagine your partner looking at you, and adoring you. Imagine yourself, looking at your partner and seeing the most beautiful person in the world, and treating them accordingly, as well.

You set the tone for your life – you get to decide how you wish to be treated, and how you treat others.  

And in the RELATIONSHIPS chapter of the CREATRIX School, you can explore how to open up to a relationship, in which you will be treated like the god_dess that you are.

Because this is your life – and the old times are over now.

No matter what was until today, what you’ve experienced, and how you’ve been treated in the past, you can learn how to set the tone for your life from now on.

And it doesn’t matter if you are gay or straight, queer, male, female, trans*, non-binary, monogamous or polyamorous for that – you have free will, and you get to set the tone for your life.

Today, at least in some places in this world, and wherever we are, in our minds, and around the right people, we have the freedom to choose our partners, our lives and how we are treated, and we can decide what we want our relationships with our partner or partners to look like.

Today, you have the power to re-define what a loving relationship looks like, and feels like, and means for you.

For that all you have to do, is to become consciously aware of your options, look for role models, inspirations, and how you would like to be treated and treat others, and then you can start to practice living in your desired reality, until you vibrate your desired reality into form.

However, what has made our relationships so complicated in the past, is our struggle with self-worth, self-love, expectations, hope, disappointment and communication – and our subconscious expectations, fears and ways we think something is supposed to be – often without even fully being aware of it.

So we will start by looking at your past, healing old wounds, and making sure we remove all trauma and blockages that might limit you on your path into a more loving future. 

We have all the tools available to free ourselves from our past – and I’m super excited to share them with you, so you can see and experience a magical transformation towards more love, joy and respect for yourself.

Even if all that you have experienced and seen until now was not what you desired. And I know that this is possible, because I’ve experienced a lot of mistreatment, abuse and had many bad experiences myself.

In this chapter, the RELATIONSHIPS chapter of the CREATRIX School, you will explore your (secret) desires, your subconscious believes, and how they might have been blocking you from what you longed for so far, and what you wish to create and experience from now on.

Our past is like the bubbles in the water behind a boat, they are there, but they are not the driving force – you are the driving force of your life – so you can decide the direction from now on, and learn how to set the tone for your relationships, not based on your past, but based on your desires. And with that you will finally feel met and seen, and, if you’re ready to go there, even experience unconditional love.

You will learn techniques that can help you to make peace with past relationships & experiences, you will work on creating the self-love, confidence & communication skills you need to thrive, and heal, and to finally allow yourself to have all you wish to have, and experience, and feel, in your relationships.

It’s the new way to live, and it’s now easily available and here for you to open up to in just 4 weeks.

In short: Do you feel like it’s time to finally figure out how to really be yourself in your relationships so that your needs can be met, and you can love freely, while living a happy, healthy, balanced and joyful life with the partner(s) of your dreams?

If you are ready to experience a true transformation and to see for yourself be treated as the god_dess you are, then I’d love to invite you to this new chapter of the CREATRIX School.

Learn how to create the intimacy and relationships you truly long for

How can we break out of harmful relationship patterns and explore love freely, confidently and joyfully? How can we create the relationships we wish to have? And find our soulmate?

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School (or 4-week course), you will explore your (secret) desires, your subconscious believes, and learn how to make peace with past relationships & experiences, and you will work on creating the self-love, confidence & communication skills you need to have all you wish to have in your current or future relationships.

And if you like, you can also get a certificate for completing this chapter.

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The Colour for this chapter is: grey

The Colour Grey – Authenticity, Equality, Honour & Respect

Finding a good balance between honour and respect and authenticity is something that many people struggle with.

Questions that arise here, and that the qualities of the colour grey can help us with, are around what’s right or wrong, what’s worth more or less, and how each of us fits into this whole system and can find their place and freely flourish and shine.

We need to honour ourselves and others equally to live in peace with each other – after all, we are all but different expressions of the same divine core – and because of this, grey is the perfect colour to help us create peaceful and safe relationships.

My offer to you:

I’ve always been a careful observer.

They first showed me how to say: “No.” And honestly, my whole life started to change from there.

Until then, I kept silently pleading for someone to be nice to me – not knowing that that someone would eventually have to be me, and that I first had to say no – to what I didn’t want any more, before I could say yes, to what I do want now.

So, if you are tired of waiting for things to change, and are ready to start stepping up for yourself, then I’m here, to guide you on your journey and share what I have learned.

I know that liking or even loving yourself can be incredibly difficult, when all you’ve seen, experienced or heard for most of your life is that you’re not good enough to be loved, or respected, or experienced that your wishes, needs or ideas didn’t matter.

If you’ve grown up with punishment or anger as a response to making a mistake, you’ve most likely internalized that behaviour, and also blame and punish yourself for mistakes now, instead of seeing them as an opportunity to grow – and something to celebrate.

If you’ve grown up with punishment or anger, with resentment, silent treatment, suppressed emotions, physical violence, overwhelmed parents, unspoken and unhealed trauma, you learned to walk on eggshells, and your nervous system is most likely still constantly checking each room for danger.

And if that is so, then now is the time to heal. So you won’t have to continue to re-live different variations of the past, but can start tuning your nervous system to a new reality.

The one in which you are safe and loved.

I will share more of my personal story with you in the different lessons of the RELATIONSHIP chapter, and while I’ve been through a lot, you will never find me blaming another person for what has happened.

Not the adults around me growing up, who didn’t have the capacity to be there for me and to love me in a way that would have helped me to feel seen, or like I mattered, not the partners and people I met, who didn’t respect me or treat me well either – for one simple reason: If I don’t accept full responsibility for my past, and find out what has let me to these experiences – I’m not going to be able to change things for myself from now on and in my future.

And the same is true for you.

It may seem easier to blame others, or to place the fault on them, but energetically we disempower ourselves when we do that.

However, when we begin to see that there is a pattern that our soul chose for us to resolve in this life-time, and that the other people were just playing their part to give us this opportunity to learn incredibly valuable lessons, then we can actually resolve things for ourselves and move on to better things pretty quickly.

What keeps us stuck in our development and our experiences, is anger, resentment and blame. 

So if you wish to be free, you also have to be ready to actually free yourself from all that energetically binds you to your past, like the need to be right, or the wish that things would have been different.

Which doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to meet your past self with all the love and compassion you haven’t had then.

There will be plenty of opportunity for that. Because you always deserved to be loved, and there was nothing ever wrong with you. You came here to heal generational trauma.

And when you begin to heal and understand what everything was for, you may even start to see the beauty in it, like I did, after I found my way out, so I can now share what I’ve learned with you – and so you won’t have to embark on this journey to true self-love alone. <3

However, while I will share about my personal transformation, I will not be sharing my love-story here with you, of how I met the love of my life and that we’ve been together happily ever after (though I can feel that something like this may be coming up for me quite soon), but these things do take time, and honestly I’m experiencing such a deep love and appreciation for myself now, for the first time in my life, that I don’t feel any rush for that at all.

And that is the crux, somehow, with everything we wish to manifest for our lives.

If we feel like we need something or are desperately looking for it – we keep ourselves at a distance from it.

So, I’m here to show you how to get to a place where you don’t feel like you NEED a relationship to be happy.

I’m here to show you how you can break out of harmful relationship patterns, which we create, when we have not grown up with unconditional love, and how you can learn to value yourself so much, that you won’t allow anyone into your life any more who doesn’t value and appreciate you for who you are.

Because that’s all it takes.

And then from here, magic will happen. As you now know how to draw it in – from a place of love in abundance – not a lack of it.

You first have to expect the best, and nothing but the best, to be able to have and experience that.

One of the most common excuses, that normalize mistreatment, that I hear on TV, and from people in real life, all the time when a partner is not kind and loving, or really treating someone badly is: “Well, I’m a complicated person, or not easy to live with, as well.”

This always breaks my heart. Because it strongly suggests that people think that they have to be a certain way to deserve to be treated with respect and kindness – and that is absolutely not true!

You don’t have to prove anything to be treated with respect.

If another person does not treat you like the god_dess you are, and with only the very best intentions, love and kindness, they have healing to do and might need your love and compassion – from a safe distance – but no one ever has the right to treat you badly – unless you give it to them.

And the same is true for you. If you choose to disrespect others and don’t treat them kindly – then there’s no reason to blame yourself for it, you just have to acknowledge that you still have healing to do, and to heal yourself with love.

And we will practice all of this in this chapter.

But to treat each other kindly, respectfully, like the divine people we are, is the bare minimum in every loving relationship of our times.

If your partner doesn’t only have the best intentions when interacting with you, if they are trying to blame you instead of helping you heal – then they are not a great partner. And of course, this always goes both ways.

So, what we will do in this chapter of the CREATRIX School, is to start with ourselves.

We will look at how to redefine our boundaries and what behaviours and words we wish for and are OK with – and which ones we won’t tolerate in our lives any more, and start practising this.

That way we can learn to trust ourselves a 100%, as only when we can do that, we can also begin to trust others fully, and feel safe and really relax in and enjoy the presence of other people.

This will require honesty and looking at our shadows, so be prepared for that.

And it means that if we want to be kind, generous, loving and caring with other people, and find other people who match our desires and our kindness, we have to learn to be, to embody, what we wish for in a relationship, so be prepared for that as well.

If we are kind to others, and not to ourselves, to receive their kindness in return, our kindness is not based on love or honesty, it’s not given freely and unconditionally, and we need to recognize that we will have to find a way to break out of this circle of dependency if we wish to experience real, free and unconditional love.

Likewise, if we tolerate bad behaviour because we subconsciously think that is all we deserve to have (because it’s all we’ve ever known), and make excuses for other people, who don’t treat us with respect and the greatest love and care, we miss out on actually having kind, gentle, honest, supportive, explorative, adventurous, sensual, exiting love – love that is based on trust, support and generosity.

So, I will show you how to break out of these and other harmful patterns, and, if that is what you wish for – how to manifest the partner or the relationship of your dreams.

How does that sound?

If you’re interested in my formal qualifications, then you can find them on the about page.

I’ve entered on my journey to become who I am now because I just wanted to be a little bit healthier and happier.

And so I began to look for ways to be that, which quickly turned into a couple of years of research and training.

I have an M.A. in cultural anthropology and political sciences, so how people work in this world has always been my main point of interest.

But what I found out in the last couple of years of research, and what I didn’t learn at University, is, that with just a few specific changes in the way we think and act, everything in our lives can change for the better – and this is true for anyone who is willing to be honest with themselves and who is not afraid of change.

We can all live abundant, happy and healthy lives – all we have to do this is to find out how and then practice it.

And we can also open up to love and healthy relationships – by beginning to create a healthy relationship with ourselves, tuning in to our desires and inner knowing, becoming more confident and loving and, most importantly, by allowing ourselves to receive.

So if you are looking to meet the love of your life, or just the love for the next while, or if you’d like to mend a relationship that doesn’t make you completely happy (yet) – (and I can literally see your soul dancing and saying yes!) then I’d be happy to guide you through this process of self-actualizing, becoming your best self, or your qu_ing self and begin to live the life, you know you are meant to live, and help you to open up to love fully and freely.

I can’t wait to welcome you to the CREATRIX School and to join a wonderful and growing community of people who dare to be generous, happy and free!

The CREATRIX School is designed to help you find clarity, confidence and connection in all areas of your life – so you can, actually, start creating the life of your dreams.

A new chapter starts with every new moon, and there are thirteen chapters altogether. You can get a certificate for each chapter you complete, and you can see the order of the chapters here.

There are different options for you to join to make the CREATRIX School available for any budget.

If you join the CREATRIX School for a year, you get access to all 13 chapters (Thirteen 4-week courses), including this one once they are released.

The RELATIONSHIPS Chapter comes as a 157-page PDF workbook consisting of 12 lessons, each including exercises, explanations and examples. The lessons are accompanied by a ritual, a practice, a playlist, a recipe and a colour, to help to anchor what you learn in this chapter into your life.

This chapter can also be bought individually for €25 here.