RELATIONSHIPS – Week 4 – Pt. 2

Photo by Ketut Subiyanto on Pexels.

← CHAPTER OVERVIEW

What have we learned?

Dear Creatrix,

First of all, congratulations!

You made it through another chapter of the CREATRIX School.

And this has been the toughest one yet – at least for me.

How do you feel? What have you learned?

What stood out to you?

What was most surprising?

In the last lesson, we looked at how we started this course and the clarity we found in the first week about our wishes and desires.

We also saw that we can use our past to learn from it and get a better idea of what we want now, instead of thinking we are doomed to repeat the same things, or that what has happened to us until now is somehow a reflection of who we are and not who we were.

In the second week we looked at how we can use the Wheel of Colours, curious inquiry (questions!) and Archetypes to help us get even more clarity about who we are and what we need and wish for, so we can confidently start to create the relationships we wish for.

And in the third week we added some practical tools and skills.

We looked at how to apologize well, how to resolve conflicts and how to communicate peacefully.

Then we moved to intimacy and how to energize a relationship and create connection through touch and physical contact, and how to safely navigate boundaries and communication here as well.

Is there anything else that is necessary to talk about when it comes to energizing our relationships?

I didn’t have internet for the last few days, so I had some extra time to think and reflect.

I can see already how much this chapter has changed me, and while it wasn’t always easy to fully explore what has been lingering unseen inside of me, so I can feel more comfortable in relationships with other people, I can literally see the effects all around me – in the conversations I have and how I’m in contact with people now.

And I’d love to hear how things have worked out for you – just leave a comment below.

But I also somehow felt like something was still missing.

Yet, until now, I couldn’t quite put my finger on it.

We did a lot of work on exploring our desires and wishes and finding self-love in the past few weeks.

And this is essential, not just for being in relationships with other people.

No relationship is more important than the one we have with ourselves.

Yet, especially when looking at ourselves and our wishes and desires, it might also be useful to consider the difference between wanting and needing something a little more closely.

I told you in the last lesson that I might in some cases have been listening to my wants more than my needs, and it makes me smile to write it down because wanting (green in the Wheel of Colours, my second colour) is also something that has been driving me all my life and has been getting me quite far.

My needs, however, I’m not always so good with.

I’m not going to share my personal reasons for this, because it’s not relevant enough right now, and I’d rather have you investigate how this might be true for you – as I think many women, especially, have been raised to put other’s needs before their own, and I definitely lived prioritizing other’s needs over mine most of my life.

I became aware of it some years ago, and I started working on it then and have been getting a lot better, but there’s still room for improvement, though it feels that now I’m finally getting to the bottom of it and might be able to resolve it altogether. We’ll see.

Abraham Maslow, the founder of self-actualization coaching, defined a hierarchy of needs. I’ll include a picture (source Wikipedia) here.

As far as I remember, he didn’t actually use this in a hierarchical way, it was put this way by other people after his death.

I agree more with those who think that these are all equal, and don’t need to be a hierarchy, but however we see this, as humans we do all have these needs in common.

And it’s worth the effort to prioritize getting all of our needs met, so that we can live freely and generously.

Our wants, however, are not necessarily the same as our needs.

They are more …

← Next Lesson Previous Lesson →

🌈 You have the power to create your reality.

ASK ME ANYTHING

More from the CREATRIX School

Food – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a new chapter in the CREATRIX School

This is going to be exciting! We will look at our food stories, and how care and nourishment and food are connected, we will see what we need to have a healthy diet – and mindset, and how to create a sacred and mindful kitchen.

And, in this lesson, we look at all of these topics a little bit, to become more familiar with these topics and to be able to set our goals for this chapter well.

Food – Week 1 – Pt. 2

Let’s explore our food stories

In this lesson, we explore how our past influences our present.

We will look at our relationship to food growing up and how this still shows in our present, and then we will look at what that tells us about how we deal with our emotions now.

Do we try to use food to emotionally regulate? Because bringing awareness to this, is the first step to creating healthier eating patterns.

Creatrix Crew Application Form

Thank you for your interest in joining a CREATRIX Crew and creating your magical support system for your self-actualization journey, ascension journey, or growth journey.

This is where you can apply to get started. 💖

Ritual: Connecting without Recreational Drugs

Let’s make new friends – while being sober.

Drinking alcohol seems like such a normal part of the lives of many. Just looking for stock photos of ‘friends’, it’s difficult to find pictures without alcoholic beverages in them.

We get offered free drinks at restaurants, and often people act as if you are insulting them, if you don’t choose to have a drink with them. But we don’t have to be an alcoholic to not want to drink. We may simply wish not to cause unnatural highs and lows, that don’t serve us.

Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

In this chapter, we are going to focus on the friendships in our lives and how we can make new friends, in any phase of our lives, and how we can grow and also heal with with our friends.

And we will start this chapter by asking ourselves some questions to find out where we are and where we would like to go in terms of friendships and true connection.

Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 2

How can we overcome loneliness? 🩷

Let’s explore more of what we are wishing for and see how we can overcome loneliness – individually and collectively.

Because we do all need each other. Friendships can bring us closer to our shadows, and they can help us heal. More friends are not necessarily better than a few good ones – and in the end, it all boils down to what we really wish for.
What’s that for you?

Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 3

What would an ideal friendship look like for you?

In this lesson, we think about friendships past and present and what makes them great and also what makes us great friends.

It can be quite difficult to be really honest about the things we wish for in life, but we’ll do it anyway, as it is the only way that we can actually have all that we wish for and that our soul desires.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 1

How can we be a great friend?

In this lesson, I share a bit about my own story with friendships, and the different stages of letting go of my past.

So see, if you can relate.

And then from there we continue by thinking about what we would like to have in terms of friendship now.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 2

What are your friendship roles?

We start this lesson again, by looking back at what has worked for us in the past when making new friends, to see if we can still use some of the same strategies and what we’s like to change when meeting new people now.

And then we also look at the different friendship archetypes to see how to make sure that we are covered in all areas when forming new friendships now.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 3

What the Wheel of Colours can tell you about your needs when it comes to friendships

The Wheel of Colours can help us to understand ourselves better, and there are certain colours and fields that can help us with creating conscious friendships.

One of them is the colour white, which tells us in which are of our lives we need to the presence and connection to other people the most.

Friendships – Week 3 – Pt. 1

Why does it get easier when we self-actualize together?

All problems in our world can be solved by raising our consciousness.

Because the higher the consciousness, the more we realize we’re all one, and that we all benefit from rising together, from helping each other to thrive as our unique selves.

So, in today’s lesson, we are going to explore this and how we can support each other in practical ways.

Friendships – Week 3 – Pt. 2

How can we build conscious friendships?

In the last lesson, we opened up to the idea of creating a support system for ourselves, so we can thrive and grow supported by community.

Today, we will explore our values, to make sure that we will be supported in a way that aligns with our soul, and our unique needs and wishes.