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How to Apologize with Love

Do you know how to apologize with love? And do you practice it?

To be human means to make mistakes. There is not one single human being who does not make mistakes regularly.

Let’s take a look at how to apologize, and also, how not to apologize.

How To Create Lasting Change Without Getting Sidetracked

If you are looking to create lasting change in your life, and the fact that you are on this website points in that direction, then I have a really simple trick for you to make the changes you desire stick.

„Knowledge that is not in the bones is just a rumour.“

This quote is attributed to the Asaro People from Papua New Guinea.

When I first heard the quote from Richard Strozzi-Heckler as part of a course I took on embodiment and purpose, it brought a great bit of clarity into my life, and I hope it will do the same for you.

How to Turn Your Home Into a Sanctuary, Today

Let’s turn our homes into places where we can restore and resource ourselves. For that, I’d love to show you how you too can start to turn your home into a sanctuary, today!

I think we can all agree that things have to change, if we want to sustain our planet and ourselves.

Towards a Sacred Kitchen – or How to Treat Yourself Well with Food

Photo by Rachel Claire from Pexels.Why a Sacred Kitchen? Because we are sacred beings and with a sacred kitchen, we can learn to take care of ourselves and anchor ourselves in the present moment. In 1237 Zen master Dogen finished his book Tenzo Kyökun or Instructions...

How to Build a Healthy Sleep Routine that Lasts

Getting enough sleep is fundamental. And to get enough sleep regularly, you need a sleep routine that serves and nourishes you. If you don't know where to start on your self-actualization journey, this is the place. Start rearranging your schedule to get enough sleep,...

How to start your Future Self Journal

Why write a future self journal? Because the more you imagine your ideal future self as a real person, the easier it becomes to become that person! Download a free cheat sheet to get you started!

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Sing, Soul, Sing

Sing, Soul, Sing

What is it that makes your soul sing? When are you happy, and when do you feel free? I feel most happy and free when I allow myself to be present. When I allow myself to forget about all plans or duties and just get in the flow of experiencing and becoming. Most of...

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We Can Do Hard Things for Halloween

We Can Do Hard Things for Halloween

Photo by Yaroslav Shuraev on Pexels.Yesterday, I listened to the We Can Do Hard Things podcast’s latest episode: Easy Fridays: Trick or Treat. As it’s this time of year, they talked about Halloween and towards the end of the episode pointed out, that people should be...

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Life can be tricky. Especially since many of the things we’ve learned and experienced have come to be in traumatized cultures and societies. But we can change our ways and find new modes of being and acting, so we can live more freely, and experience more love and joy. Here are some places to start. If you have ideas or wishes of what else to add, please let me know!

How to Apologize with Love

How to Apologize with Love

Do you know how to apologize with love? And do you practice it?

To be human means to make mistakes. There is not one single human being who does not make mistakes regularly.

Let’s take a look at how to apologize, and also, how not to apologize.

How To Create Lasting Change Without Getting Sidetracked

How To Create Lasting Change Without Getting Sidetracked

If you are looking to create lasting change in your life, and the fact that you are on this website points in that direction, then I have a really simple trick for you to make the changes you desire stick.

„Knowledge that is not in the bones is just a rumour.“

This quote is attributed to the Asaro People from Papua New Guinea.

When I first heard the quote from Richard Strozzi-Heckler as part of a course I took on embodiment and purpose, it brought a great bit of clarity into my life, and I hope it will do the same for you.

How to Turn Your Home Into a Sanctuary, Today

How to Turn Your Home Into a Sanctuary, Today

Let’s turn our homes into places where we can restore and resource ourselves. For that, I’d love to show you how you too can start to turn your home into a sanctuary, today!

I think we can all agree that things have to change, if we want to sustain our planet and ourselves.

d.i.y. corner

Consumption was last year – this year we make our own products. Just kidding. I believe in conscious consumption and that we can’t and don’t have to do everything ourselves. Yet, it helps to know how we can do some of the things ourselves and that we don’t have to buy everything. And it helps to know what some of the things, which we use regularly, are made of, so we can get a better understanding of what is really necessary and healthy. This way we can start to develop a relationship with what we use, how we use it and with that find more awareness and ultimately relax more because we can actually choose how we do things. Here are a few things I started to make myself lately. If you have ideas or wishes of what else to add, please let me know!

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Standing on the shoulders of giants

I recently heard the quote: “When you invent the car, you also invent the car crash.”
Too often we find ourselves hesitant because we want to avoid mistakes, or possible disasters.
Once we become aware that we are only taking steps in a process of a collective evolution, the fear can dissolve and make room for the joy of exploration.

Everything has a shadow. Yet, we need to dare, to evolve.
We all know, from our individual experience, that we have to try some things and learn for ourselves, to believe them.
The same is true for our collective humanity.
Whatever we do, we are just the messenger of something that is needed for this evolution.
These people have proven what benefit is possible for all of humanity, if we dare. We can learn from them, so that we, too, may dare to be our true and best selves.

Helen Keller and Making the Impossible Possible

Helen Keller and Making the Impossible Possible

I first learned about Helen Keller when I went to High School in the US and read her biography in a vocabulary building class.

It was the same class, in which I also first learned about Maya Angelou.

What struck me, and what I could relate to, was the feeling of alienation and feeling misunderstood by the adults around growing up.

Pablo Picasso and the Beginner’s Mind

Pablo Picasso and the Beginner’s Mind

I think in the 80s, it was quite impossible to grow up without knowing Pablo Picasso.

I did not have a lot of access to art or discussions about art, but what I did have were calendars or postcard books by artists, with their drawings and paintings and quotes or explanations.

I remember spending a lot of time reading about the artists and studying their work.

Maya Angelou Modelled what it Means to Live with Grace

Maya Angelou Modelled what it Means to Live with Grace

I first read ‘I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings’ by Maya Angelou when I was an exchange student in San Diego, in the US.

For me at age 16 or 17 it was the first time that I found myself in an environment where I belonged to the small minority of white people.

I think at the time, that was as confusing and new as being surrounded by palm trees at school, a presence that until then was exclusive to vacations.

Dear Future Self

Dear Future Self is an ongoing series which takes a look at the presence in its impermanence.
The idea is to capture a certain moment in time, a feeling, a wish, an encounter or experience and to recognize, that the perspective on that moment will change.
My future self will know more than I do now, will have had more and different experiences than my current self, and will therefore have a different view on what I’m noting now. Going back and forth, between these notes, also documents the steps in personal development and shifts and changes on an individual level.
Self-Actualizing, personal development, the search for more options, or simply experiencing growth and change for any reason, might feel weird, scary or uncertain. Yet impermanence or becoming is something we all share.

20 /// Dear Future Self – Do You Speak Up?

20 /// Dear Future Self – Do You Speak Up?

Dear future self, When I was eleven or twelve, I decided not to be completely honest with other people, if it meant that it would hurt their feelings. I didn't think that that was what I was doing, though. I thought I had decided not to say things behind people's back...

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Going deep

Some things need more attention than others. Writing helps me to figure out what’s going on. Here are some explorations of topics that move me.

Why You Are Perfect Just the Way You Are

Why You Are Perfect Just the Way You Are

You Are Perfect ❤️

What is the first thing that comes to your mind, when you hear that you are perfect?
That you’re not perfect?

That you couldn’t be perfect because you made this mistake or didn’t do something like you were supposed to?

That you couldn’t be perfect because there was a time when you disappointed or hurt someone?

What if I told you that none of that mattered and that you are perfect, no matter what you do?

What if I shared with you that we are each perfect, exactly the way we are, simply because we exist?

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Press

Lola Magazine: Local Hero

Lola Magazine: Local Hero

Local Hero: Verena Spilker On Elevating Opportunities for Artists in Berlin and Beyond Verena Spilker On Elevating Opportunities for Artists in Berlin and BeyondThe TQU founder’s simple advice for those looking to support Berlin’s queer artists: ‘Be brave and be...

Interview: Siegessäule

Interview: Siegessäule

“Ich habe mich erniedrigt und hilflos geführt”, erzählt die Aktivistin Verena Spilker, als sie, eine lesbische Frau, auf der Straße mal wieder von einem cis Heteromann sexuell belästigt wurde.Magazin: Juni 2018 U-Bahn, Parks, nächtliche Straßen – öffentliche Räume...

Interview: Gay.ch

Interview: Gay.ch

Verena Spilker und ihr Projekt TQU: Vor neun Jahren hat Verena ein Internet-Projekt ins Leben gerufen, dass nicht nur einzigartig ist, sondern auch stätig wächst: Transnational Queer Underground.Magazin: April / Mai 2018Die etwas anderen LGBT-Reisetipps, der Hashtag...

Music / ✰ Mixes

Do you remember 2002?

My first ever DJ-Set took place in a friendly dark bar, called Nörgelbuff, in 2002 in Göttingen, Germany, not too far from where I live now. I had just started to work at the local Record Shop, DisRecords and a friend I made there invited me to DJ with her and I was...

Ausstellung: Batumi Photo Days

Jahr: 2019Ort: Batumi, Georgien + Korea Im Frühjahr war ich Teilnehmerin beim ArtGora Forum in Riga und die Konferenz und inspirierenden Menschen und Projekte dort haben viele tolle Eindrücke hinterlassen. Eine_r der wunderbaren Teilnehmer_innen teilte eine Call für...

Illustration for Fool’s Journey

Last September Jane asked me to draw a tarot card to accompany one of her wonderful poems for a book full of poetry and Tarot cards. I felt quite honored. The card was the Wheel Of Fortune and the poem one, I had previously translated for her for an event. Jahr:...

Queer Culture in Berlin @ Bed Talks Berlin

Bed Talks Berlin – The Free Thinking Festival Last year I got invited to participate at BedTalks Berlin. I got teamed up to speak with Philip Ibrahim, the host of The Student Hotel Berlin who also founded the pinkPillow initiative together with visitBerlin, Berlin’s...

Queer Art? @ EU-R CSF

EU-Russia Civil Society Forum/ Гражданский Форум ЕС-Россия: „1989-2019. Reflecting Europe. Am 5.-6.12.2019 trafen wir uns im Berliner Haus der Statistik um Bilanz zu ziehen und in die Zukunft zu schauen: Wie klang 1989? Woran haben wir uns in diesem Jahr erinnert und...

Ausstellung: Drawings/Connections

Datum: 14.06.2019 – 7pmOrt: FrauenNachtCafé, Mareschstr. 14, 12055 Berlin About Drawings/Connections Verena Spilker is a queer artist from Berlin. Her drawings of animals, landscapes and moments build a connection between the object and the observer. She explores the...

Collage Story Horses for Leopardskin & Limes

There was a night where me and a couple of friends met in one of our houses, and we all made collages and had some drinks. And a really lovely time. The collages I made somehow ended up becoming a bit of a story, about patriarchy, horses and drugs. Or something else?...

Ausstellung: A Window to the World

Jahr: 2018Ort: Altes Spital Viechtach und Bahnhof Kötzting Missmatch – taken in Kyrgyzstan 2003 I took this picture in Kyrgyzstan in 2003. I was there for a summer program organized by DAAD to learn about Kyrgyz language and culture. But instead of getting me excited...

Illustration für S_he’s Amazing!

S_he’s Amazing usually organizes concerts here in Berlin, but they have also just put out their very first zine! I contributed with a digital drawing of my two favorite dogs. And as the topic of the zine is inexhaustible, there will be another issue! Feel free to send...

Ausstellung: Jason Harrell – Vorhersagen

Die Ausstellung zeigt neue Arbeiten von Jason Harrell und Renaud Héléna, die sich mit Spiritismus und Okkultismus auseinandersetzen. Für seine Fotoserie bedient sich Jason Harrell klassischer Entwicklungsverfahren, um Methoden der Geisterbeschwörung und Wahrsagerei zu...

Drawings / Photos ☻ / Exhibitions

Ausstellung: Batumi Photo Days

Jahr: 2019Ort: Batumi, Georgien + Korea Im Frühjahr war ich Teilnehmerin beim ArtGora Forum in Riga und die Konferenz und inspirierenden Menschen und Projekte dort haben viele tolle Eindrücke hinterlassen. Eine_r der wunderbaren Teilnehmer_innen teilte eine Call für...

Illustration for Fool’s Journey

Last September Jane asked me to draw a tarot card to accompany one of her wonderful poems for a book full of poetry and Tarot cards. I felt quite honored. The card was the Wheel Of Fortune and the poem one, I had previously translated for her for an event. Jahr:...

Queer Culture in Berlin @ Bed Talks Berlin

Bed Talks Berlin – The Free Thinking Festival Last year I got invited to participate at BedTalks Berlin. I got teamed up to speak with Philip Ibrahim, the host of The Student Hotel Berlin who also founded the pinkPillow initiative together with visitBerlin, Berlin’s...

Queer Art? @ EU-R CSF

EU-Russia Civil Society Forum/ Гражданский Форум ЕС-Россия: „1989-2019. Reflecting Europe. Am 5.-6.12.2019 trafen wir uns im Berliner Haus der Statistik um Bilanz zu ziehen und in die Zukunft zu schauen: Wie klang 1989? Woran haben wir uns in diesem Jahr erinnert und...

Ausstellung: Drawings/Connections

Datum: 14.06.2019 – 7pmOrt: FrauenNachtCafé, Mareschstr. 14, 12055 Berlin About Drawings/Connections Verena Spilker is a queer artist from Berlin. Her drawings of animals, landscapes and moments build a connection between the object and the observer. She explores the...

Collage Story Horses for Leopardskin & Limes

There was a night where me and a couple of friends met in one of our houses, and we all made collages and had some drinks. And a really lovely time. The collages I made somehow ended up becoming a bit of a story, about patriarchy, horses and drugs. Or something else?...

Ausstellung: A Window to the World

Jahr: 2018Ort: Altes Spital Viechtach und Bahnhof Kötzting Missmatch – taken in Kyrgyzstan 2003 I took this picture in Kyrgyzstan in 2003. I was there for a summer program organized by DAAD to learn about Kyrgyz language and culture. But instead of getting me excited...

Illustration für S_he’s Amazing!

S_he’s Amazing usually organizes concerts here in Berlin, but they have also just put out their very first zine! I contributed with a digital drawing of my two favorite dogs. And as the topic of the zine is inexhaustible, there will be another issue! Feel free to send...

Ausstellung: Jason Harrell – Vorhersagen

Die Ausstellung zeigt neue Arbeiten von Jason Harrell und Renaud Héléna, die sich mit Spiritismus und Okkultismus auseinandersetzen. Für seine Fotoserie bedient sich Jason Harrell klassischer Entwicklungsverfahren, um Methoden der Geisterbeschwörung und Wahrsagerei zu...

Ausstellung: #TheGalleryProject in Berlin

47 Künstler_innen aus 27 Ländern stellen für zwei Wochen in der ReTramp Galerie in Neukölln aus Für zwei Wochen werden ab dem 24.03.2018 Zeichnungen, Drucke, Fotografien, Comics, Collagen und Installationen von 47 queeren Künstler_innen aus 27 Ländern zu sehen sein....

✎ Texts / Talks

Queer Culture in Berlin @ Bed Talks Berlin

Bed Talks Berlin – The Free Thinking Festival Last year I got invited to participate at BedTalks Berlin. I got teamed up to speak with Philip Ibrahim, the host of The Student Hotel Berlin who also founded the pinkPillow initiative together with visitBerlin, Berlin’s...

Queer Art? @ EU-R CSF

EU-Russia Civil Society Forum/ Гражданский Форум ЕС-Россия: „1989-2019. Reflecting Europe. Am 5.-6.12.2019 trafen wir uns im Berliner Haus der Statistik um Bilanz zu ziehen und in die Zukunft zu schauen: Wie klang 1989? Woran haben wir uns in diesem Jahr erinnert und...

Ausstellung: Drawings/Connections

Datum: 14.06.2019 – 7pmOrt: FrauenNachtCafé, Mareschstr. 14, 12055 Berlin About Drawings/Connections Verena Spilker is a queer artist from Berlin. Her drawings of animals, landscapes and moments build a connection between the object and the observer. She explores the...

Collage Story Horses for Leopardskin & Limes

There was a night where me and a couple of friends met in one of our houses, and we all made collages and had some drinks. And a really lovely time. The collages I made somehow ended up becoming a bit of a story, about patriarchy, horses and drugs. Or something else?...

Ausstellung: A Window to the World

Jahr: 2018Ort: Altes Spital Viechtach und Bahnhof Kötzting Missmatch – taken in Kyrgyzstan 2003 I took this picture in Kyrgyzstan in 2003. I was there for a summer program organized by DAAD to learn about Kyrgyz language and culture. But instead of getting me excited...

Illustration für S_he’s Amazing!

S_he’s Amazing usually organizes concerts here in Berlin, but they have also just put out their very first zine! I contributed with a digital drawing of my two favorite dogs. And as the topic of the zine is inexhaustible, there will be another issue! Feel free to send...

Ausstellung: Jason Harrell – Vorhersagen

Die Ausstellung zeigt neue Arbeiten von Jason Harrell und Renaud Héléna, die sich mit Spiritismus und Okkultismus auseinandersetzen. Für seine Fotoserie bedient sich Jason Harrell klassischer Entwicklungsverfahren, um Methoden der Geisterbeschwörung und Wahrsagerei zu...

Ausstellung: #TheGalleryProject in Berlin

47 Künstler_innen aus 27 Ländern stellen für zwei Wochen in der ReTramp Galerie in Neukölln aus Für zwei Wochen werden ab dem 24.03.2018 Zeichnungen, Drucke, Fotografien, Comics, Collagen und Installationen von 47 queeren Künstler_innen aus 27 Ländern zu sehen sein....

Ausstellung: #TheGalleryProject in Prag

THE EXHIBITION The exhibition was part of the lovely Mezipatra Queer Film Festival and hosted at the very nice and new bar and gallery space Patra. 01.-30.11.2017 open every day from 3pmWhere?Patra, Krymská 17, Prague, Czech Republic 10100Opening:01.11.2017 – 7pm at...

Ausstellung: #TheGalleryProject in Sofia

THE EXHIBITION The queer art exhibition Sofia was the second exhibition of #TheGalleryProject and was part of Sofia’s annual Queer Art Week that happens around the Pride march in June. Simeon of GLAS Foundation invited us and helped set up an amazing exhibition. For...

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