A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating a Home that is Right for You

by | Sep 6, 2023 | CREATRIX School Introductions, Body, Home, News | 0 comments

Photo by Good Free Photos on Pexels.

Would you like to live in your dream home?

What if I told you that you’re closer to living in your dream home than you think?

You may not believe me.

To be honest, I wouldn’t have believed it myself if I had heard this, before I moved into the place I wanted to live in, within two months of saying so.

Do you think that you don’t have the money to move into your dream home?

Do you think that you’ll never find the right property or flat given the current market situation?

Do you think that maybe you might not deserve to live in the home that your heart truly desires?

In short: Is it seeming impossible to you right now to move into your dream home within the foreseeable future?

I’d like to prove you wrong.

Because all you need to do to start living in your dream home, is a plan and to follow through with it. And I’d like to share this proven plan I with you in this article.

To be more precise, there are exactly three steps you need to take to get into your dream home, or to turn your current home into your personal sanctuary.

Curious to learn more? Then, let’s go.

STEP 1: Assess what you have now

Take a look around you, what do you like about your current home, and what do you dislike? What do you want to change?

I see people complaining about their living situation all the time: It’s too dark, there’s no bathtub/balcony/garden, it’s too small, I don’t get along with my neighbours, it’s too loud and so on.

But nobody is doing anything to change their situation.

As you are here, I know you are different and you want to do something to change your situation.

Because when we find ourselves complaining or worrying, from now on, we can simply take that as a sign that lets us know that we somehow feel disempowered in that moment or situation, and that it is time to take our power back.

Usually, we feel disempowered because we don’t know what to do, or because we don’t trust ourselves to take the right action to create the changes we seek.

But lucky for you, you came to just the right place to find out exactly what you can do to turn your current living situation into your ideal living situation and get the support to follow through with it.

STEP 2: Let go of your baggage

For almost all people, there is an extra hurdle, though, that needs to be taken, before we can actually create the changes we seek and step into our full power. And that hurdle can be found in our subconscious.

We all have hidden assumptions, which we are not conscious about and if we don’t find them, they might be blocking us from creating the changes we seek for the rest of our lives.

This means that we consciously believe one thing, but subconsciously we believe in something else because at some point in our life that hidden belief or assumption has kept us safe.

And now both opposing beliefs are constantly competing and keeping us from achieving what we actually want.

We might consciously believe and know, for example, that there is enough work and food and money for everybody. Yet subconsciously, we think that there isn’t and so we continue to compete with or feel threatened by other people.

When it comes to our homes, we might consciously think that we can live and have the right to live any way we want to – but subconsciously we might also think that we are worthy of having what we desire, wonder why we should be able to achieve our dreams, if other people can’t, or we simply might not dare to actually look for what we want out of fear that we might not get it.

But none of those subconscious assumptions are true. And so it is our job to change that subconscious belief by bringing it to our awareness and proving it wrong (I will show you exactly how to do this in the CREATRIX School).

This way we can let go of the baggage, hidden assumptions and old beliefs that have been holding us back and open up for the changes we seek.

STEP 3: Focus on what you want

After we’ve created some space to open up for something new, by dropping what has been holding us back so far, we can then begin to actually focus on what we want without boycotting ourselves.

This means being really honest with ourselves and overcoming all fears and doubts, so if you like to hold on to them, this might not work for you.

But if you’d like to overcome the fears and doubts that have been holding you back once and for all, then this is for you and you’ll get the support and guidance you need to actually do so.

For this, we will make peace with all that was and that we have now, and then begin to start looking at what it takes to get what we want next.

From here we can begin to make very conscious decisions about how we want to level up and reach our goals without burning out and while being happy, grateful, confident, relaxed and fulfilled on our way to manifesting what we really want and know deep down we deserve and can have.

And that’s really it.

If this is all it takes, why isn’t everybody doing it?

Because not everybody is willing to do what it takes to change their situation.

There’s a certain comfort in complaining and blaming others, the times or our circumstances for the situation we’re in.

If we want to create changes in our lives, we have to take full responsibility for our lives as well and we have to be willing to be honest with ourselves, to learn and change and, most importantly, to open up to allow joy and love and abundance into our lives – and that can be difficult to do on your own.

Most people simply don’t know where to begin or what to do exactly, and don’t have the money to work with a coach on these topics individually.

January - Self // Self-Actualize!

Which is precisely why I founded the CREATRIX School.

This way, I can guide you through every step you need to take to get to where you want to go and bring clarity, confidence, joy, relaxation, abundance and playfulness into every area of your life – without having to pay full price for a personal coach.

Because, as every good coach will tell you, we are here to ask you the right questions, the answers you will always have to find for yourself.

And you do already have the answers, you just haven’t taken the time to ask the important questions and listen to your answers yet.

The questions we have to answer to live a fulfilled, happy and successful life are the same for almost every one – they have been asked again and again over centuries by wisdom seekers all around the world.

But once you have answered them for yourself, you will find peace and calm and a sense of safety, that is hard to imagine possible before you do.

Again, it’s something I wouldn’t have dared to imagine possible before I started my own self-actualization journey. I was a pretty insecure mess in my past.

Isn’t it selfish to take time to answer these questions and begin to live my dreams when other people are struggling?

If you ask this question, aren’t you struggling yourself? Don’t you find it difficult to sleep peacefully at night because you worry about your personal situation and the state of the world?

The thing is, we can only safely reach out a hand to other people if we stand strong ourselves. It’s the same reason why we are told to put an oxygen mask on ourselves first, before we help others – because if we don’t have air, or energy or love, or food or hope to sustain ourselves, we cannot inspire and support other people.

Equally, we can only create a better and more equal world, if we all have access to all the resources we need to live free, happy and abundant lives. It’s why I will always encourage you to share everything you learn here with other people.

The truth is that to create change on the larger scale, we always have to start with ourselves.

If we are strong, we can act powerfully, if we know how to be healthy, we can share that knowledge with others, if we love ourselves, we can share and give and receive love freely as well.

If we want to help other people, we first have to know how to take care of ourselves – so it’s never selfish to learn how to take good care of ourselves.

Everybody can have their dream job, live in their dream home and live and experience peace and joy, we just don’t all know how yet.

But you can make a start, just like I did some years ago, and then share your knowledge so that, over time, all people who are interested, will have the knowledge and ability to live self-actualized, happy, healthy and successful lives.

In the end, it is up to you to decide if it’s time to move into the home of your dreams, to live a life that matches your desires and to step into your full power.

If you let other people and their opinions hold you back, it will not make you or them any happier.

But if you want to begin changing your life for the better and eventually also inspire others to do the same because they will see you change and shine and thrive, then you can book the Home // Ground Yourself! course individually or join the CREATRIX School, to bring clarity, confidence, joy and abundance into every area of your life for one full year.

And you can try this risk-free. If you don’t like it, you have a thirty-day money-back guarantee, no questions asked.

January - Self // Self-Actualize!

Is now the right time to level up your life?

You know it is the right time when you are tired of not being fully happy in your home, and when you think it’s time to stop complaining about what is and are ready to roll up your sleeves and get to work.

Excuses as to why now is not the right time will always come up, but they are just what they are, excuses.

Because in the end, this is your life and the sooner you start to create the home of your dreams, the sooner you will be able to enjoy it as well.

So, I give the question back to you: Is it time for you to live in a way that nourishes you and makes you feel safe, happy and at ease?


Hi, I’m Verena and for many years I lived in a small flat in Berlin, dreaming about being closer to nature.

But I didn’t make that move until my partner and I broke up – two months after I sat down to write about my wishes for the future for the very first time in my life.

I will gladly tell you more about what happened exactly in the HOME // Ground Yourself! chapter of the CREATRIX School – but what really amazed me, was that 

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

I love renovating & creating nice spaces!

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

And doing what it takes to get there.

after taking the time to write down what I really wanted in life, it did all come into my life as well – almost magically.

Not right away, because I had some cleaning up to do as well, and not necessarily always in the way that I thought I wanted things to happen, but the more I cleaned up and made peace with my past, the more open, curios and conscious I became, the more things changed for the better in my life.

To be honest, in the beginning, I just wanted to be a little bit healthier and happier.

And so I began to look for ways to be that, which quickly turned into a couple of years of research and training which let me to become the spiritual teacher and coach I am today.

I have an M.A. in anthropology and political sciences as well, so how people work has always been my main point of interest, but what I found out in the last couple of years of research is, that with just a few specific changes in the way we think and act, everything in our lives can change for the better – and this is true for anyone who is willing to be honest with themselves and not afraid of change.

Because we can all live abundant, happy and healthy lives – all we have to do is find out how and then practice.

If that’s what you want to do (and I can literally see your soul dancing and saying yes!) then I’d be happy to guide you through this process of self-actualizing, becoming your best self, or your qu_ing self and begin to live the life, you know you were always meant to live.

I’m looking forward to welcoming you to our wonderful community of people who dare to be generous, happy and free!

How does this work?

Every course is structured in the same way and follows the three steps I mentioned above. In the first week, we assess what we have in life right now regarding each topic and begin to think about what we would like to have.

In the second week, we turn to our past and clean up, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, find hidden assumptions that have been blocking us and drop the baggage that has been making our lives difficult and heavy.

In the third week, we focus on what we want to create now and begin to take the steps that will get us there, whether that is reaching out to new people, cleaning up our homes, doing exercises to learn more about our desires, making art, taking on new practices and so on.

And in the last week, we reflect and integrate. Because that is just as important as the actual work if we want to create lasting effects.

Each week is split up into three separate lessons, which you receive via email on Mondays, Wednesdays and on Fridays. To read each email takes between 5 and 15 minutes, depending on whether it’s more practical or theoretical.

So around thirty minutes each week will be your minimum weekly time investment.

But just reading the content will only bring you minimum results. Every lesson comes with exercises and the more time you invest here, the deeper you go, the better your results will be.

Don’t let this time commitment discourage you, though. This is an investment you make now, which will save you tons of time in the future.

Because if you invest time now, to find clarity about your life and your desires, you will win this time back many times: by not making the same mistakes over and over again, by knowing what to do and how and by simply being good to yourself instead of boycotting what you really want with distractions, avoidance and procrastination.

What else is included?

Each course or chapter comes with a playlist, recipes and rituals, so we can use all our senses to joyfully integrate the topics we are working on and to feel the change and make it visible as well.

We will also refer to some chapters of my upcoming qu_ing book, which you will get access to through the course emails, and in some chapters we will use the Archetype Oracle Cards Deck I created.

healthy sleep routine

The cards and descriptions we’ll be using will also be made available to print if you join the course.

There is a private Facebook group you will be invited to join and I offer bi-weekly Q&As, so you can get all the questions answers that might come up along the way.

In some chapters, we will also look at our individual Wheel of Colours, as it is a super useful tool to bring more clarity into our lives and to find out what we each need in certain situations.

As I make the Wheel of Colours individually for each person, you will have to order that separately, though.

If you join the CREATRIX School or take one of the courses individually, you will receive an extra discount code for your order of the Wheel of Colours though as well.

All the course contents are also available as a PDF so that you can keep it forever and refer to it whenever you need to.

I AM CREATOR School - Start Creating Your New Life

For the CREATRIX School, as well as the individual courses, there are different membership options available, starting at € 19.90 per month/course.

The knowledge and skills you can learn here are essential to living a happy and fulfilled life, and while it’s a shame that we didn’t all learn these tools and strategies in school or from our parents – I want to make them available to anyone now.

If you can’t afford the €19,90 per month or €190 for one full year, write to me, to figure out a scholarship option.

Because we all win if we each become happier, healthier, more joyful and more successful.

Is it your time to shine?
Then I’m looking forward to welcoming you to the CREATRIX School.
Das Rad der Farben

Recognize yourself, with the Wheel of Colours!

The Wheel of Colours gives us a glimpse into our subconscious and can thus enable us to analyse our very individual composition, our abilities and needs more precisely than we would be able to do in the conventional way, through talk therapy, or in contact with other people.

And with this certainty, we no longer have to keep trying to figure ourselves out, but can simply act accordingly.

You can find out about your own personal Wheel of Colours, today.

Join the I'M a CREATRIX School

I AM CREATOR School - Join Now

Are you a creatrix?

Have you ever felt like you don’t quite belong? That you’re somewhat different from the rest of the people around you?

That there’s a yearning deep down, a knowing, that you are capable of more? That while you know you are talented and can achieve a lot, something is somehow still missing?

Then you are a creatrix. And it’s time to start living it.

I, too, felt this way as long as I can remember
And I didn’t know what I was missing.

I had friends, a partner, a rewarding job. I was an artist, an activist and created real change.

Yet, I also felt lonely, uncertain, sometimes hopeless and often stressed.

No matter what or how much I did, it never felt completely right or like I had arrived.

Something was always missing.

Generous life movement


Listen to first Podcast Episode: Finding Freedom.

on facebook

Join the Facebook Group for inspiration & accountability.

free newsletter

Be the first to know about upcoming events & offers.

creatrix school

Bring clarity, love, confidence and abundance into your life.

sustainable business directory

Shopping consciously is easy now.

Our world needs you.
In your full power.

Start exploring new ways to be in this world.

Are you ready to let go of what's been holding you back?

Are you ready to live a joyful, brave, explorative, creative, fulfilling and successful life?

Are you ready to discover what it feels like to be free?

What it feels like to be free to be who you are?

To discover all that you are?


Are you ready to explore all that is possible for you?
Is it time to finally be yourself?
Is it time for your liberated life?

join us

To start becoming your true self, guided by me and together with other like-minded explorers. You are loved & so welcome.


Who you were always meant to be. And start living a generous, free and abundant and joyful life.