CREATRIX School – 02 – Relax! // FAMILY

Do you sometimes wonder why your family situation is so complicated?

The good thing is, that no matter what your situation is now, you have the power to change it for the better. And I’d be happy to show you how.

What causes most of our human suffering is feeling disempowered.

When we feel disempowered, we ask ourselves: Why am I here? Why is this happening to me? Why is this so complicated?

We feel like we are the victims of our circumstances and don’t feel like we have the power to change our situation, like there are too many people involved, like things have always been a certain way, and we wonder how we should be able to change them now.

We think that the things, which are happening to us, the family dynamics which are already in place, are beyond our control, and it seems like we have to accept, cope and react.

But the second we take full responsibility for the situation we are in, we can also begin to change it. The second we recognize that we are the ones creating our reality, we can begin to change how we think, talk and act, and we will see how the things around us will begin to change as well.

This is true for the family situation we find ourselves in, as well as any other situation.

Now the only question that remains is this:

“Would you like to learn more about how you can change your perspective when it comes to your family situation, so that your circumstances may change as well?”

Then you’ve come to the right place. The CREATRIX School teaches you a new way to live, one where you feel fully empowered – and this chapter is your opportunity to learn how to create a family life you can truly enjoy!

Do you sometimes wonder why your family situation is so comlicated?

Is it time to gently create some changes?

Would you like to learn how to make peace with what is, and start building what you wish for?

In short: Would you like to start creating your ideal family life?

Then you are invited to the CREATRIX School – to learn all it takes to make peace with your current family situation and start creating the family for yourself that you always wished for.

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School, we will use the Inner Child Archetype Oracle Cards, to find out about the roles we took on in our lives so far, see what we’ve learned from them and begin to see how even our most difficult lessons were tailored especially for us to provide us with the growth our souls need.

From here, we will go even further and see what happens if we were to consider that it was actually our active choice to be born into exactly the situation we were born into, before we came to this earth.

Most of the time, we struggle with a situation, because we don’t think we should be in it, or that we cannot get ourselves out of it – because we feel disempowered.

So if we change our perspective and consider that we did actually actively choose the situation we are in, then we can begin to see why we might have done that and what we can GAIN from the situation we are in.

From here, we can begin to recognize that we faced the obstacles we did, because they allowed us to acquire something we did not have before.

Once we accept that, and learn to actually be grateful for that, we can begin to alchemize these experiences into something good, resolve what has been bothering us and begin to make peace with the people in our lives and create the family we actually wish for – actively, not by hoping that one day things might just magically change, as when we do that, we might miss the chance of having it at all.

By facing what we have and changing what we can, bit by bit, step by step, our lives will begin to change for the better – and will allow us to actually live with what we wish for.

Course Content

Learn how to make peace with any Family situation and create the family you always wished for

We find ourselves in an incredible moment in time, one where we can break with generational trauma and negative patterns, which have been limiting us & humanity, for centuries.

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School (or 4-week course) we will explore how we can transform our family relationships and create new possibilities for ourselves and future generations.

Individual courses are €30 each.

Membership options providing you with access to all 13 courses/chapters start at €15/month.

Access to this course is FREE for members of the CREATRIX School.

All Lessons

Family – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Family – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School (or 4-week course) we will explore how we can transform our family relationships and create new possibilities for ourselves and future generations.

Today, we start by opening up to the topic and finding out about how we really feel about our families.

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Family – Week 1 – Pt. 2

Family – Week 1 – Pt. 2

What makes a family?

In this lesson, we begin to think more about the possibilities we have when it comes to creating the families we would like to have.

And this is the aim of this course – to find confidence in creating the life you wish for, not the one that you feel is expected of you, or to feel like because you didn’t have certain things growing up, that you can’t have them now either.

We begin looking for what it will take for you to have everything you desire.

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Family – Week 1 – Pt. 3

Family – Week 1 – Pt. 3

What are your fondest (childhood) memories?

In this lesson, we look at how our culture might have formed our beliefs about what a family should look like, and how we can change them, if we don’t think they serve us any more.

We also look at the things we like to keep, that we are fond of, and that we wish to honour and cultivate.

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Family – Week 2 – Pt. 1

Family – Week 2 – Pt. 1

Your Inner Child & You

In this lesson, we start working with the Inner Child Archetypes, and we look at how we can process feelings and forgive ourselves and others so that we can move on with more freedom.

What will it take for you to go from feeling sad about something, to feeling like you can change it?

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Family – Week 2 – Pt. 2

Family – Week 2 – Pt. 2

Your Inner Child & You pt. II

In this lesson, we see how we can use the Inner Child Archetypes to empower ourselves, to see what we would like to work on, to live a more balanced and happier life, and how we can learn what needs to be learned, and heal what needs to be healed, and transform our view of the past and begin to see it as the fuel for the future we want to create now.

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Family – Week 2 – Pt. 3

Family – Week 2 – Pt. 3

Let’s play a game

What would happen if you were to imagine that you, your highest self, chose this life for you?
Why could this be true?

In this lesson, we explore what it feels like to look at our lives, our struggles from a different perspective and see if that can enable us to feel more empowered about the choices we are going to make from now on.

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If anyone can learn this, why don’t they?

Because many people don’t believe that they have the power to change their lives.

Even if they haven’t even tried — yet. Or because they’ve tried it in ways that didn’t work for them, as they likely wanted too much too fast – or didn’t dare enough.

There’s a certain comfort in not taking full responsibility for the situation we’re in, by blaming our circumstances, upbringing or current world events – and believing that it’s not up to us to create the changes we need and seek.

But if we want to create changes, it’s always up to us to start – and if we initiate a positive change once, we also know we can do it again.

The CREATRIX School invites you to find out for yourself, that you have the power to change anything you don’t like about your life, by giving you the right exercises to try and see for yourself, what else could be possible if you dare to be your true and authentic self.

It’s revolutionary, yet also very practical and down to earth.

And it’s not like you will not eventually be able to figure this all out by yourself, it might just take you a lot longer. So if you want guidance and get going now, this is for you.

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I’d be happy to gracefully guide you through the process of your self-actualization, and to make this journey as easy, fun, exciting, surprising and successful for you, as possible.

Because I’ve just went through a lot of these changes myself.

From my experience, I know that, to create the changes, we wish for in our lives, we have to begin by taking full responsibility for our thoughts and actions and start being honest with ourselves.

From here we can find our own unique ways to be ourselves, to laugh, to love, to learn, to open up and to enjoy trying something and failing at it, as much as we enjoy mastering it.

Everything in life happens for us, not to us.

Every experience, everything we try and fail at, helps us to learn and grow and be better next time.

Because, as humans, that’s what we are here on earth for:

To grow and to learn, and to show and share our unique gifts and beauty, so we can contribute to the whole in our own unique ways and for the highest good for all.

If we begin to recognize our purpose and see our journey through life as a self-actualization journey, that will eventually allow us to be our highest, truest, most relaxed and abundant qu_ing self, it also allows us to open up to joy and love and abundance in our lives a bit more every day.

Anyone can do this, really – and it can even be a lot of fun.

But it can also be hard work, to face our shadows and begin to transform them into light.

And to do this confidently and continuously until we reach true inner peace might take some practice and encouragement, which can be difficult to bring up on your own.

Most people simply don’t know where to begin or what to do exactly, or don’t have the money to work with a personal coach or teacher on these topics individually.

Which is precisely why I founded the CREATRIX School.

This way, I can guide you through every step you need to take to get to where you want to go and bring clarity, confidence, joy, relaxation, abundance and playfulness into every area of your life – without having to pay full price for a personal coach.

Yet, with the same success.

As every good coach will tell you, we are here to ask you the right questions, the answers you will always have to find for yourself.

And you do already have the answers.

You just haven’t taken the time, or had the right guide, or the confidence, to ask them and to listen for your answers.

But this can all change right now.

Is this the right course for you?

Take a second to imagine what your life will look like when you are at peace with yourself now, as well as with all that was in the past.

When you can acknowledge that you are a beautiful and wonderful and talented person and your future is in your hands.

Can you see that your future only depends on what you allow yourself to believe to be possible for you?

There’s nothing holding you back, but the voices in your head, of conditioning, fear and a false sense of protection – and those we can change, together.

We all had to go through challenges. Sometimes we ignore them, sometimes we alchemize them, and sometimes we suffer because of the challenges we are or were facing.

We all always do the best we can. Until we know better, and then we can do better.

Now the thing is, that if we continue to struggle with and hold on to negative feelings about our past, we give our past the power to negatively impact our present and future as well.

But we also have the choice to let go and create a future different from our present and past.


How does it feel to imagine letting your past go?

At least to some extent, so that it won’t be able to negatively impact your future?

If you can’t quite see that happening yet, that’s OK. I’d be happy to help with the how.


But either way, do take a second to imagine what you would like to have, what you would love to have, when it comes to family, without the limitations you’ve set in your mind because of what you’ve experienced and thought about yourself until now.

Start to develop a clear picture of what you want to have in the future, without letting ‘reality’ limit you.

And then begin to take the first steps in that direction by feeling what that ideal future would feel like.

When you do, when you start allowing new possibilities for you, things can begin to unfold in the best possible way for you.

All you have to do is to believe in it, for this to be true.

Now, when you do, you are ready to ask yourself:

Do you think it might actually be possible for you to have more of what you want and less of what you had and didn’t like?

If you can answer this question with a yes, even if the yes is still shy, then this is the right course for you.

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You have everything it takes to live the life your soul desires, that makes you happy and fulfils you.

And the more you recognize and live that truth or knowing, the more confident you will become in walking your unique path, and the more balanced your life will become.

To live a fulfilled, happy and successful life, we each have to ask ourselves some questions and find our unique answers to them.

These questions have been asked again and again by wisdom seekers all around the world in all centuries of human history, and are as easy or as difficult as: “Who am I? Why am I here?”

Or: “What do I need to eat to be healthy?”

Or, as we will see in this chapter: “How can I use my thoughts and believes to heal my family relations?”

And now it’s your turn to ask yourself these questions so you can walk through life having your own answers and with this knowing, build a deep-rooted confidence and the understanding that you belong here and are exactly right as you are.

Once you have answered these questions for yourself and by yourself (though with guidance I provide for you in the CREATRIX School), you will find peace and calm and a sense of safety and clarity, that is difficult to imagine possible before you do.

Other people’s opinions, guidance and wisdom can be great and super helpful, but it will never match your unique situation 100%, and so no guidance will ever be as good as the one you find within.

The trust, wisdom and confidence I experience now, is something I wouldn’t have dared to imagine possible, before I started my own self-actualization journey.

Real freedom, confidence & success are possible – for anyone who dares to look within and try new ways.

“I feel incredible now, but I was pretty insecure, doubtful and unhappy in my past.

Without that past, however, I wouldn’t be here now – I wouldn’t know what it takes to get here and what kind of change is possible.

I’ve learned a lot because of the hardships I endured in my past, especially from the most difficult parts.

Today, I am genuinely happy about everything that has happened in my life, even the challenges that hurt really bad.

With every hurdle I overcame, new powers emerged and with every valley I crossed, the horizon opened up and showed me new options.

Today, I truly enjoy every step I take because I know it is and will continue to be worth it.”

And I’d love for you to be able to develop this sense of ease and joy about everything that happens in our lives as well, because we are all here to explore, learn and grow and not to have it all figured out already.

If you believe new opportunities are waiting here for you, if you’d like to start building a deep-rooted trust in yourself and your abilities – then this is the right course for you.

All you have to do is get started.

Isn’t it selfish to focus on myself?

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Especially when there are other people out there who are struggling much more?

If you ask this question, aren’t you struggling yourself?

Don’t you find it difficult to sleep peacefully at night because you worry about your personal situation and/or the state of the world?

The thing is, we can only safely reach out a hand to other people if we stand strong ourselves.

It’s the same reason why we are told to put an oxygen mask on ourselves first, before we help others – because if we don’t have air, or energy or love, or food, or hope to sustain ourselves, we cannot inspire and support other people – sustainably.

Equally, we can only create a better and more equal world, if we ALL have access to all the resources we need to live free, happy and abundant lives.

It’s why I will always encourage you to share everything you learn in the CREATRIX School with other people.

Sharing what you’ve learned deepens your knowledge and holds you accountable, and it opens doors for others to see things in a new and more self-empowered way.

If we think that we can or need to change the opinion of others to create change – we enter into a frustrating and often violent game – and, most of the time, cause more damage than good.

If, however, we live what we preach and set an example, show other people how it can be done, we are so much more likely to succeed.

The undeniable truth is, that to create change on the larger scale, we always have to start with ourselves – we have to be the change.

If we are strong, we can act powerfully, if we know how to be healthy, we can share that knowledge with others, if we love ourselves, we can share and give and receive love freely.

By embodying what we wish for, sharing what we have and giving freely, all that we want more of, can multiply indefinitely.

So, to create the change we wish for, we can only start by meeting our own needs first.

If we want to help other people, we have to know how to take care of ourselves.

Looking at it this way, we can realize that it’s never selfish to learn how to take good care of ourselves.

Everybody can have their dream job, live in their dream home and experience peace and joy – we just don’t all know how yet.

The reason why we have wars, exploitation, hate, fear, devastation, sickness, is because the people involved in these actions, don’t know how to solve things peacefully.

They are ruled by their egos.

But we, you and me, have a choice.

We can be like most people, take sides, hate one and love the other – and with that continue to keep up a system that thinks killing, discrimination or exploitation of others can be justified – or we can feel helpless in the face of all the devastating things going on in the world, and so overwhelmed that we ignore it altogether or break down and become depressed.

Or we can choose to strengthen ourselves, to gently overcome our ego and begin to live a life in service for the highest good of all – and discover that we can actually have all that we wish for.

Which option do you think will bring the best results for you and all those whose lives you touch?

We can each make a start and begin to learn what it takes to live in peace with ourselves so that we can also live peacefully with other people.

Once we’ve found our purpose, our calling, our strength, our power, our unique gifts, we can share our knowledge and experiences with confidence so that, over time, all people who are interested and ready, will have access to the knowledge and can learn to live self-actualized, happy, healthy and successful lives.

In the end, it is up to each one of us to decide if it’s time to start living a life in which we can fully become ourselves, develop all our skills and ideas and grow with ease to live a life that matches our desires – and with that contribute to the well-being of all, or not.

No one will stop you, from becoming your true self, but you.

If you let other people and their opinions or judgement hold you back, it will not make you or them any happier or help you or them.

But if you want to begin changing your life for the better and inspire others to do the same – because they will see you change and shine and thrive, then you now have the opportunity to join the CREATRIX School, to bring peace, clarity, confidence, joy and abundance into every area of your life.

And you can easily find out if this is the right thing for you, by taking advantage of the free 30-day trial.

Do you want to begin living more joyfully and peacefully?

Is now the best time to start?

You know that now is the right time to create the changes in your family life that you seek when you feel like you don’t want to continue to worry or feel hopeless or resigned about the way your family life is now, or how it has been so far.

Now is the right time, to open this chapter in the CREATRIX School, and in your life, if you want to bring clarity, confidence and connection into your life and into your family.

Now is the right time, if you would like to base your family interactions on love, on understanding, on forgiveness and be able to deal with whatever comes up feeling empowered and able to handle it, instead of insecure, or intimidated.

To dare to change something that has been a certain way for a big part of our lives, or for as long as we remember, might seem scary or pointless.

Yet, I dare you to try, as it is very possible to change things, and it is very freeing to feel empowered in a situation, that you thought you could not change.

Excuses as to why now is not the right time will always come up, but they are just what they are: EXCUSES.

In the end, the sooner you start to create a life according to your soul’s desire and align your body, mind and soul for your highest good and that of all, the sooner you will be able to fully enjoy your life as well.

So, let me give this question back to you:

Is it time for you to live in a way that nourishes you and makes you feel safe, happy, loved and at ease?

Is it time to start creating and living with the family of your dreams?

Then, yes, this is the very best time.

Am I the right guide for you?

Hi, I’m Verena, the founder of the CREATRIX School and the Generous Life Movement and, if you wish, I’ll be your personal guide on your self-actualization journey.

I can’t wait to see you make all your dreams come true – because we need our families, may they be biological or chosen, now more than ever.

For most of my life, I felt like the outsider in my family, like I didn’t really belong. And as a result, I tended to think that I just wasn’t meant to be happy or to have a family of my own.

But at some point, I realized that I did not want to continue like that and began to find out what it would take to create the family I wished for.

And to be honest, initially, I had no idea if that was even possible.

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

Family can mean doing things together.

I wondered if it was too late for me, or maybe if I just wasn’t meant to be happy in this lifetime.

But the stronger my relationship to my inner knowing became, the more I began to realize that that wasn’t true.

What I learned, though, was, that I could either continue to complain about what is, or roll up my sleeves and start to make some changes in the way I see things so that I could begin to invite more of what I wanted into my life.

When it comes to creating the family of my dreams, I haven’t reached my goals yet because these changes take time, but I am so much closer than I’ve ever been and my relationship to my biological family has improved drastically.

And I wouldn’t have believed what became possible for me, if I hadn’t lived through those changes myself.

I’d love for you to be able to experience the same.

Because what is possible for me and others is also possible for you.

No matter what you, personally, desire, what your situation is now and what the changes are, that you want to see, you can and will make it happen, and I’m here to show you how.

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

Family can also mean growing up together.

For me as a queer woman, creating a family might still be harder in some ways, yet I also believe that not taking things for granted, and not having what is normal or natural to others, gave me the ability to really question what I wanted and what mattered to me – so I won a lot of clarity.

The decision to have children, or not to have children, is one we all have to make, it’s just less likely that I get pregnant accidentally if I don’t have sex with men.

But we can all decide if we want to be a mother, father, a dada or a grandparent.

And then what inhabiting these roles actually means for us.

We also all get to decide how much time we would like to spend with or how close we wish to be to our biological or chosen family.

What activities do we want to do with our families?

And which ones do we want to do with our core families and which ones with our extended families?

How can we call in the right people to create family and community in a way in which we dare to show our authentic selves, and therefore create a space for us that allows us to feel like we belong?

I, personally, have family in Ukraine (though many of them moved to Hungary when the war started), who adopted me when I moved there, and called me into their families by making me a godparent to their children or simply by calling me a sister, daughter, sibling.

I also have my biological family in Hamburg, Germany, who I barely saw or was in contact with for more than twenty years and with which I’m reconnecting now.

I have community and friends who are also family in different places of this world.

And then I have my dog, my home and hope to, when the time is right, start a family of my own.

I’m super happy to be in a position now to share all that I have learned on my own journey with you, so you too will soon know what it takes to live a happy and successful, confident, generous and loving life by joining the CREATRIX School for a while.

To be honest, I’ve entered on my journey to become who I am now because I just wanted to be a little bit healthier and happier.

And so I began to look for ways to be that, which quickly turned into a couple of years of research and training – because that’s the person that I am.

I’m a Scorpio and I like going deep.

I have an M.A. in cultural anthropology and political sciences, so how people work in this world has always been my main point of interest.

And as a Cultural Anthropologist, I got to learn that family doesn’t just mean one thing, it can mean very many different things to different people in different parts of the world.

We’re actually very lucky to live in a time and place where we can choose how we want to live and can change traditions that have been limiting and oppressive to previous generations.

On top of my own experience and what I’ve seen and learned in my past, what I found out in the last couple of years of research, from the latest scientific discoveries, which mostly match ancient wisdom, is, that with just a few specific changes in the way we think and act, everything in our lives can change for the better – and this is true for anyone who is willing to be honest with themselves and who is not afraid of change.

We can really all live abundant, happy and healthy lives – all we have to do is to learn how and then to practice it – and the how is waiting right here for you in the CREATRIX School.

🌈 You have the power to create your reality.

Are you ready to go deep?

The CREATRIX School isn’t for everyone.

But it’s for you if you are ready to go deep and (re)discover all that you’ve been hiding and running away from.

We can all live in Heaven on Earth, but first we have to learn how to forgive and love ourselves and begin to understand that everything in life happens for us, not to us.

We can become the CREATRIXES of our lives, but for that, we have to be honest, clean up our messes, become aware of how much power and influence we have through every thought we think and every word that we say.

If you are willing to take full responsibility for your life, and are ready and brave enough to begin living, acting and speaking as your authentic self, then, this is for you.

You don’t need to bring anything, I’ll guide you towards the questions you can ask yourself to begin to become your own best guide, trust your intuition and allow yourself to be fully YOU – and possibly find love, happiness, freedom, creative expression and all that you’ve been wishing for on the way.

How Does the creatrix school work?

Every course covers a different topic or area of our lives, but is structured similarly:

In the first week, we assess what we have in life right now regarding each topic and begin to think about what we would like to have instead.

In the second week, we turn to our past and clean up, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, find hidden assumptions that have been blocking us and drop the baggage that has been making our lives difficult and heavy.

In the third week, we focus on what we want to create now and begin to take the steps that will get us where we want to go. That might mean acquiring new skills, reaching out to new people, cleaning up our homes, doing exercises, making art, taking on new practices and so on.

In the last week, we reflect and integrate. Because that is just as important as doing the work if we want to create lasting change.


Each week is split up into three separate lessons, which you find on this page.

To read the content takes between 5 and 20 minutes, depending on whether it’s more practical or theoretical.

To follow along 30 minutes will be your minimum weekly time investment.

But just reading the content will only bring you minimum results.

Every lesson comes with exercises and questions for you to work on.

The more time you invest here, the deeper you go, the better your results will be.

Don’t let this time commitment discourage you, though.

This is an investment you make now, which will save you tons of time in the future.

Because if you invest time now, to find clarity about your life and your desires, you will win this time back many times: by not making the same mistakes over and over again, by knowing what to do and how and by simply being good to yourself instead of boycotting what you really want with distractions, avoidance and procrastination.

What else is included?

Each course or chapter comes with a playlist, recipes and rituals, so we can use all our senses to joyfully integrate the topics we are working on.

This also helps to make the changes we create on the inside visible on the outside.

We will also refer to some chapters of my upcoming qu_ing book, which you will get access to through the course content, and in some chapters we will work with the Archetype Oracle Cards Deck I created.

The cards and descriptions we’ll be using will also be made available to print if you join the CREATRIX School.

There is a private Facebook Group you will be invited to join, and I offer bi-weekly Q&As, so you can get all the questions answers that might come up along the way.

In some chapters, we will also look at our individual Wheel of Colours, as it is a super useful tool to bring more clarity into our lives and to find out what we each need in certain situations.

As I make the Wheel of Colours individually for each person, it’s not included in all course packages, but you will get a discount if you join the CREATRIX School. And you can also participate without knowing your Wheel of Colours. It might just be more fun.

Now all that’s left for you to do is to join and see for yourself.