CREATRIX School – 10 – Reach Out! // COMMUNITY

Let’s create the world we want to live in – together!

What comes to mind when you hear the word community?

Do you feel like you are part of a community? Where do you belong?

And if you’ve been involved in one or more community settings, what were the problems you faced?

What worked and didn’t work?

If you, like me, believe that it takes strong communities to create the changes we seek in this world, then let’s have a look, together, at how each of us can best contribute to building strong communities.

As somebody who has been involved in all kinds of communities all her life, I’ve seen a lot of what has worked and a lot that didn’t work, when it comes to building stronger communities.

From my experiences, I might have concluded that there is no simple answer to the question of how we can start building stronger communities or uniting many individuals to work towards a common goal – as bringing different people, from different backgrounds together, to work together, in an unhealed world, is a difficult task.

But I would not want to let difficult discourage me or anyone.

And when we begin to look at it from a higher perspective, a very simple answer becomes apparent, which only needs two components to work:

Any community or project, family or relationship will work smoothly if each part, each individual, is doing their inner work and is taking full responsibility for their life and their actions.

I’ve opened the CREATRIX School exactly for this reason – so we can all learn how to become free, happy, growing, thriving and responsible individuals.

Because when we fully know ourselves, are kind and loving with ourselves, we don’t need our ego to drive us, and thus can begin to safely, kindly, compassionately interact with others and together put our lives in service for the highest good of all.

With a few simple transitions, this really could be everyone’s reality.

And you can learn all of them in the CREATRIX School, meet your true self and other like-minded people, and see your life and your world change.

For this, it does not matter what other people are doing – until this is everyone’s reality, until everybody is taking full responsibility for their lives, we start by taking full responsibility for our own lives and then begin to ask ourselves what it is that we are looking for in terms of community – and start creating that.

Because the more we create of what we love, the more we can enjoy that as well.

What the second component is, I will share with you in this chapter.

It’s the new way to live, and it’s available to all!

Do you sometimes wonder if you could increase your impact?

Is it time to build the community you wish to have?

Do you want to learn how to reach and unite more people?

In short: Do you feel like it’s time to start really diving into your sense of responsibility so you can start leading with confidence and help direct our world in a way that helps us all to prosper and evolve?

Do you believe a small group of people can create meaningful change and, with that, eventually change the world?

The intention to create meaningful change, to come together with open hearts, and the readiness to listen, learn and grow, is the base for any form of community, and what can help us in building stronger communities, besides the two factors mentioned above.

In this chapter of the CREATRIX School we will look at how we can each find the right community for us, we will look at our personal strengths and the gifts we came to share with others (with some help from the Wheel of Colours) and we will see how we can form temporary alliances for a cause.

We will also look at how we can put our egos aside, so we can side with other people for a common cause, and why it is so important to look at the change we want to create instead of what we wish to overcome.

If you are curious to find out how to make an impactful, confident and conscious life your new reality, then I’d love to invite you to this new chapter in the CREATRIX School.

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Community – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

Starting today, and for the next four weeks, we will think about how we can be at our best with others and how we can use our unique abilities, gifts and talents to contribute to the greater good of all.

As the first week of each chapter in the CREATRIX School is all about assessing where we are, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, and invite more of what we do want, we start this chapter by looking at our hopes for the future of our world as well as the experiences we’ve made in community so far.

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Community – Week 1 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 2

What do we mean when we say communities, and why do we need them?

There are different ways for communities to be organized. Sometimes, all people are equal and come together to organize things as equals.

Sometimes, there’s an initiator, or someone who finances the project and other people who organize and implement it.

Sometimes, there are some people who are paid and other people who volunteer.

What are the different kinds of projects or communities you have been involved in, or would like to get involved in, in your life?

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Community – Week 1 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 3

How do you envision our future?

It’s easy to think there are so many problems in this world – what am I supposed to do about it – I can’t do anything but make the best of it – and that’s true to some extent – but also not entirely.

Because we’re not just here to get by. We’re not just here to arrange ourselves with what is already here – we are life and a part of the great symphony of life that’s playing right now, in this moment, and we get to contribute to it.

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Community – Week 2 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 1

How to learn to love triggers

In this lesson, we look at why it is so important to unite for a cause and not against someone or something – if we want to create lasting change – no matter how much we might disagree with them or something.

And we look at how love really is always the answer, even, or especially, when someone or something upsets us.

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Community – Week 2 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 2

How can we create a real alternative to what we currently have?

In this lesson, we talk about how judgement can be a very useful tool on our journey to becoming our most authentic and best selves and create the communities we wish for, as long as we don’t use it to condemn other people or to establish superiority.

We also think about how every trigger is really here for us to grow, and not something to be afraid of or to avoid and how punishment, just like suppression, doesn’t lead to anything beautiful – and what we can do instead.

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Community – Week 2 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 3

On Freedom, Responsibility and our Nature

In this lesson, we look at how freedom and responsibility are linked and what that has to do with consciousness.

And how with a raised consciousness also comes more freedom and thus, by raising our consciousness and finding more inner peace, we also obliterate the need for violence.

And we look at another essential thing, that will help us be more aware in our community interactions – our role as humans in nature, in this world.

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Community – Week 3 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 1

What’s your unique superpower?

We start this lesson with a short review of what we’ve learned in the last few lessons to resolve the most common problems found in communities today.

And then we begin to look at our unique superpowers, so we can become more confident in the way we contribute to any community, group or project we choose to support.

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Community – Week 3 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 2

What’s your favourite archetype?

In this lesson, we dive deeper into the roles we can inhabit in a group or community setting.

Are you better fit for a creative role or a leading role, or both, or something else?

Knowing what we are good at, and also thinking about what we would like to learn and grow into, can help us immensely to find our place in any community setting and to be able to contribute in the best possible way.

This is also a great resource if you’d ever like to start your own project or company and can help you make sure all vital roles will be covered so that the project can run in the best possible way.

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Community – Week 3 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 3

What’s your (stress) archetype?

Of course, things don’t always go the way we want them too.

Sometimes we get stressed, overwhelmed, take on too much or don’t dare to step into our power.

But we can always change and learn and grow.

Looking at the Occasional Archetypes, like the thief, victim, fool, hero_ine, adventurer and so on can help us to recognize these archetypes in ourselves and others and help us to come back into balance, whenever we slip into them.

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Community – Week 4 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 4 – Pt. 1

Let your heart be your guide

We end this chapter by thinking about forming temporary alliances, to help us come together for causes that affect us all – and how we can do that while also disagreeing on other things.

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Community – Week 4 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 4 – Pt. 3

What would your Qu_ing-Self do?

In our final lesson, we celebrate all we’ve learned in this chapter and see how we can take it even one step further by asking ourselves what our highest self, our qu_ing -self, would do.

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Practice:

PEACEFUL CONFLICT RESOLUTION

Ritual:

Intention setting

Recipe:

energy
balls

If anyone can learn this, why don’t they?

Because many people don’t believe that they have the power to change their lives.

Even if they haven’t even tried — yet. Or because they’ve tried it in ways that didn’t work for them, as they likely wanted too much too fast – or didn’t dare enough.

There’s a certain comfort in not taking full responsibility for the situation we’re in, by blaming our circumstances, upbringing or current world events – and believing that it’s not up to us to create the changes we need and seek.

But if we want to create changes, it’s always up to us to start – and if we initiate a positive change once, we also know we can do it again.

The CREATRIX School invites you to find out for yourself, that you have the power to change anything you don’t like about your life, by giving you the right exercises to try and see for yourself, what else could be possible if you dare to be your true and authentic self.

It’s revolutionary, yet also very practical and down to earth.

And it’s not like you will not eventually be able to figure this all out by yourself, it might just take you a lot longer. So if you want guidance and get going now, this is for you.

January - Self // Self-Actualize!
I’d be happy to gracefully guide you through the process of your self-actualization, and to make this journey as easy, fun, exciting, surprising and successful for you, as possible.

Because I’ve just went through a lot of these changes myself.

From my experience, I know that, to create the changes, we wish for in our lives, we have to begin by taking full responsibility for our thoughts and actions and start being honest with ourselves.

From here we can find our own unique ways to be ourselves, to laugh, to love, to learn, to open up and to enjoy trying something and failing at it, as much as we enjoy mastering it.

Everything in life happens for us, not to us.

Every experience, everything we try and fail at, helps us to learn and grow and be better next time.

Because, as humans, that’s what we are here on earth for:

To grow and to learn, and to show and share our unique gifts and beauty, so we can contribute to the whole in our own unique ways and for the highest good for all.

If we begin to recognize our purpose and see our journey through life as a self-actualization journey, that will eventually allow us to be our highest, truest, most relaxed and abundant qu_ing self, it also allows us to open up to joy and love and abundance in our lives a bit more every day.

Anyone can do this, really – and it can even be a lot of fun.

But it can also be hard work, to face our shadows and begin to transform them into light.

And to do this confidently and continuously until we reach true inner peace might take some practice and encouragement, which can be difficult to bring up on your own.

Most people simply don’t know where to begin or what to do exactly, or don’t have the money to work with a personal coach or teacher on these topics individually.

Which is precisely why I founded the CREATRIX School.

This way, I can guide you through every step you need to take to get to where you want to go and bring clarity, confidence, joy, relaxation, abundance and playfulness into every area of your life – without having to pay full price for a personal coach.

Yet with the same success.

As every good coach will tell you, we are here to ask you the right questions, the answers you will always have to find for yourself.

And you do already have the answers.

You just haven’t taken the time, or had the right guide, or the confidence, to ask them and to listen for your answers.

But this can all change right now.

Is this the right course for you?

How can we start building stronger communities post covid?
You have everything it takes to live the life your soul desires, that makes you happy and fulfils you.

And the more you recognize and live that truth or knowing, the more confident you will become in walking your unique path, and the more balanced your life will become.

To live a fulfilled, happy and successful life, we each have to ask ourselves some questions and find our unique answers to them.

These questions have been asked again and again by wisdom seekers all around the world in all centuries of human history, and are as easy or as difficult as: “Who am I? Why am I here?”

Or: “What do I need to eat to be healthy?”

Or, as we will see in this chapter: “How can I use my thoughts, beliefs and actions to create the community I need to make the changes possible that can be beneficial to all of us?”

And now it’s your turn to ask yourself these questions so you can walk through life having your own answers and with this knowing build a deep-rooted confidence and the understanding that you belong here and are exactly right as you are.

Once you have answered these questions for yourself and by yourself (though with guidance I provide for you in the CREATRIX School), you will find peace and calm and a sense of safety and clarity, that is difficult to imagine possible before you do.

Other people’s opinions, guidance and wisdom can be great and super helpful, but they never match your unique situation 100%, and so no guidance will ever be as good as the one you find within.

The trust, wisdom and confidence I experience now is something I wouldn’t have dared to imagine possible before I started my own self-actualization journey.

Real freedom, confidence & success are possible – for anyone who dares to look within and try new ways.

I feel incredible now, but I was pretty insecure, doubtful and unhappy in my past.

Without that past, however, I wouldn’t be here now – I wouldn’t know what it takes to get here and what kind of change is possible.

I’ve learned a lot because of the hardships I endured in my past, especially from the most difficult parts.

Today, I am genuinely happy about everything that has happened in my life, even the challenges that hurt really bad.

With every hurdle I overcame, new powers emerged and with every valley I crossed, the horizon opened up and showed me new options.

Today, I truly enjoy every step I take because I know it is and will continue to be worth it.

And I’d love for you to be able to develop this sense of ease and joy about everything that happens in our lives as well, because we are all here to explore, learn and grow and not to have it all figured out already.

If you believe new opportunities are waiting here for you, if you’d like to start building a deep-rooted trust in yourself and your abilities – then this is the right course for you.

All you have to do is get started.

Isn’t it selfish to focus on myself?

January - Self // Self-Actualize!

Especially when there are other people out there who are struggling much more?

If you ask this question, aren’t you struggling yourself?

Don’t you find it difficult to sleep peacefully at night because you worry about your personal situation and/or the state of the world?

The thing is, we can only safely reach out a hand to other people if we stand strong ourselves.

It’s the same reason why we are told to put an oxygen mask on ourselves first, before we help others – because if we don’t have air, or energy or love, or food, or hope to sustain ourselves, we cannot inspire and support other people – sustainably.

Equally, we can only create a better and more equal world, if we ALL have access to all the resources we need to live free, happy and abundant lives.

It’s why I will always encourage you to share everything you learn in the CREATRIX School with other people.

Sharing what you’ve learned deepens your knowledge and holds you accountable, and it opens doors for others to see things in a new and more self-empowered way.

If we think that we can or need to change the opinion of others to create change – we enter into a frustrating and often violent game – and, most of the time, cause more damage than good.

If, however, we live what we preach and set an example, show other people how it can be done, we are so much more likely to succeed.

The undeniable truth is, that to create change on the larger scale, we always have to start with ourselves – we have to be the change.

If we are strong, we can act powerfully, if we know how to be healthy, we can share that knowledge with others, if we love ourselves, we can share and give and receive love freely.

By embodying what we wish for, sharing what we have and giving freely, all that we want more of, can multiply indefinitely.

So, to create the change we wish for, we can only start by meeting our own needs first.

If we want to help other people, we have to know how to take care of ourselves.

Looking at it this way, we can realize that it’s never selfish to learn how to take good care of ourselves.

Everybody can have their dream job, live in their dream home and experience peace and joy – we just don’t all know how yet.

The reason why we have wars, exploitation, hate, fear, devastation, sickness, is because the people involved in these actions, don’t know how to solve things peacefully.

They are ruled by their egos.

But we, you and me, have a choice.

We can side with them, take sides, hate one and love the other – and with that continue to keep up a system that thinks killing, discrimination or exploitation of others can be justified – or we can feel helpless in the face of all the devastating things going on in the world, and so overwhelmed that we ignore it altogether or break down and become depressed.

Or we can choose to strengthen ourselves, to gently overcome our ego and begin to live a life in service for the highest good of all.

Which option do you think will bring the best results for you and all those whose lives you touch?

We can each make a start and begin to learn what it takes to live in peace with ourselves so that we can also live peacefully with other people.

Once we’ve found our purpose, our calling, our strength, our power, our unique gifts, we can share our knowledge and experiences with confidence so that, over time, all people who are interested and ready, will have access to the knowledge and can learn to live self-actualized, happy, healthy and successful lives.

In the end, it is up to each one of us to decide if it’s time to start living a life in which we can fully become ourselves, develop all our skills and ideas and grow with ease to live a life that matches our desires – and with that contribute to the well-being of all, or not.

No one will stop you, from becoming your true self, but you.

If you let other people and their opinions or judgement hold you back, it will not make you or them any happier or help you or them.

But if you want to begin changing your life for the better and inspire others to do the same – because they will see you change and shine and thrive, then you now have the opportunity to join the CREATRIX School, to bring peace, clarity, confidence, joy and abundance into every area of your life.

And you can easily find out if this is the right thing for you, by taking advantage of the free 30-day trial.

Do you want to begin living more joyfully and peacefully?

Is now the best time to start?

You will know that now is the right time to start looking for or creating the community you wish for when you feel like you want to step out of your comfort zone and allow for more positive change in your life than you could bring about on your own.

Now is the right time, to open this chapter in the CREATRIX School, and in your life, if you would like to bring clarity, confidence and connection into your life and into a community and feel ready to share what you’ve learned as well as would like to continue to learn from others.

Now is the right time, if you would like to base your life and your interactions on love, on understanding, on forgiveness and be able to deal with whatever comes up feeling empowered and able to handle it, instead of insecure, or intimidated.

To dare to change something in a way much bigger than we’ve dared before might seem scary or challenging.

Yet, I dare you to try, as it is very possible to change things, and it is very freeing to feel empowered in a situation, that you thought you could not change.

Excuses as to why now is not the right time will always come up, but they are just what they are: EXCUSES.

In the end, the sooner you start to create a life according to your soul’s desire and align your body, mind and soul for your highest good and that of all, the sooner you will be able to fully enjoy your life as well.

So, let me give this question back to you:

Is it time for you to live in a way that nourishes you and makes you feel safe, happy, loved and at ease?

Is it time to start creating and experiencing the community and a sense of belonging you so far only wished for or secretly dreamed about?

Then, yes, this is the very best time.

Am I the right guide for you?

Hi, I’m Verena, the founder of the CREATRIX School and the Generous Life Movement and, if you wish, your personal guide on your self-actualization journey.

I’ve raised myself in community.

When I was 13, as was customary to where I grew up, I started taking bible classes, and the teacher saw something in me and invited me to start leading children’s groups.

I will forever be grateful for that, as it opened the opportunity to learn and experience a lot more than I would have been able to with my friends and family alone.

Not only did I have responsibility, I also got to meet people from different environments when we organized city or countrywide events.

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

This was in Sweden, where I curated part of an exhibition – a community event for sure.

My experiences there, also led me to do a voluntary service year after graduating from High School, working with Roma communities in Ukraine.

I guess I was, what you would call, a natural leader. I was always honest, reliable and straightforward and people trusted me easily – because they could.

I became class and student school representative and the second I started university, I began to work at a record shop, became a DJ and started hosting a radio show and got involved in the local music community.

But it didn’t stop there.

As I moved to other cities and places, I got involved in political work as well.

We organized queer parties and events, festivals, exhibitions and so much more.

Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!
Verena Spilker stands smiling and thinks: Let's make this happen!

This is from the first summer school I organized in Ukraine.

We were able to put together incredible events, often with almost no budget.

I also volunteered for and worked in different NGOs in Germany and Ukraine, until I eventually founded my own NGO and ran that for some years.

Later, when I worked as a web designer, I also mostly worked with and for organizations working in the field of anti-discrimination or for other political causes.

Over the years, I got to see a lot of the good, the bad and the ugly.

I saw how people almost lost their lives fighting for the causes they believed in.

I saw fights, struggles, quarrels, pure hate, fear, anger, determination, exhaustion, nervous break-downs, wins and defeats.

And I learned a lot.

I actually changed my profession from being a web designer to becoming who I am today because I saw how much the people fighting to create positive change in the world, did not believe in themselves, or did not know how to take good care of themselves (me included), and therefore were not standing a chance to create change on a level that is and was needed.

After watching this and wondering what to do about it for more than ten years (as a web designer), I finally understood, something that is now one of my essential teachings: That we can only fully be there for others, once we know how to fully be there for ourselves.

So that’s where we will start in this chapter as well.

And if you’d like to learn how to become strong enough to help strengthen any community, then I’d love to take you on this journey with me.

Change isn’t easy, but it’s kind of like ripping off a band-aid.

It’s painful for a second, then it takes some patience and healing, but then you also feel fresh and renewed and like you’d never want to go back.

It doesn’t require some allowing and the bravery to do and begin to see things differently, but I promise you that you won’t regret it.

I’ve entered on my journey to become who I am now because I just wanted to be a little bit healthier and happier.

And so I began to look for ways to be that, which quickly turned into a couple of years of research and training.

I have an M.A. in cultural anthropology and political sciences, so how people work in this world has always been my main point of interest.

If you’re interested in my formal qualifications, then you can find them on the about page.

But what I found out in the last couple of years of research, and what I didn’t learn at University, is, that with just a few specific changes in the way we think and act, everything in our lives can change for the better – and this is true for anyone who is willing to be honest with themselves and who is not afraid of change.

We can all live abundant, happy and healthy lives – all we have to do for this is to find out how and then practice it – and the how is waiting right here for you in the CREATRIX School.

We all need to learn how to best interact with other people – and seeing the division we are currently facing in society and where we are headed if we continue with things as they are – it will feel so freeing to know how you can actually be able to help and contribute in a way that nourishes you, and doesn’t burn you out.

So if you are looking to be better resourced, open, receptive and relaxed so that you can become all you can possibly be (and a lot more than you might now allow yourself to be now) and contribute with a full and open heart, then I’d be happy to guide you through this process of self-actualizing, becoming your best self, or your qu_ing self and begin to live the life, you know you are meant to live and open up to live and love fully and freely.

I can’t wait to welcome you to the CREATRIX School and to invite you to our wonderful community of people who dare to be generous, happy and free!

🌈 You have the power to create your reality.

Are you ready to go deep?

The CREATRIX School isn’t for everyone.

But it’s for you if you are ready to go deep and (re)discover all that you’ve been hiding and running away from.

We can all live in Heaven on Earth, but first we have to learn how to forgive and love ourselves and begin to understand that everything in life happens for us, not to us.

We can become the CREATRIXES of our lives, but for that, we have to be honest, clean up our messes, become aware of how much power and influence we have through every thought we think and every word that we say.

If you are willing to take full responsibility for your life, and are ready and brave enough to begin living, acting and speaking as your authentic self, then, this is for you.

You don’t need to bring anything, I’ll guide you towards the questions you can ask yourself to begin to become your own best guide, trust your intuition and allow yourself to be fully YOU – and possibly find love, happiness, freedom, creative expression and all that you’ve been wishing for on the way.

How Does the creatrix school work?

Every course covers a different topic or area of our lives, but is structured similarly:

In the first week, we assess what we have in life right now regarding each topic and begin to think about what we would like to have instead.

In the second week, we turn to our past and clean up, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, find hidden assumptions that have been blocking us and drop the baggage that has been making our lives difficult and heavy.

In the third week, we focus on what we want to create now and begin to take the steps that will get us where we want to go. That might mean acquiring new skills, reaching out to new people, cleaning up our homes, doing exercises, making art, taking on new practices and so on.

In the last week, we reflect and integrate. Because that is just as important as doing the work if we want to create lasting change.

 

Each week is split up into three separate lessons, which you find on this page.

To read the content takes between 5 and 20 minutes, depending on whether it’s more practical or theoretical.

To follow along 30 minutes will be your minimum weekly time investment.

But just reading the content will only bring you minimum results.

Every lesson comes with exercises and questions for you to work on.

The more time you invest here, the deeper you go, the better your results will be.

Don’t let this time commitment discourage you, though.

This is an investment you make now, which will save you tons of time in the future.

Because if you invest time now, to find clarity about your life and your desires, you will win this time back many times: by not making the same mistakes over and over again, by knowing what to do and how and by simply being good to yourself instead of boycotting what you really want with distractions, avoidance and procrastination.

What else is included?

Each course or chapter comes with a playlist, recipes and rituals, so we can use all our senses to joyfully integrate the topics we are working on.

This also helps to make the changes we create on the inside visible on the outside.

We will also refer to some chapters of my upcoming qu_ing book, which you will get access to through the course content, and in some chapters we will work with the Archetype Oracle Cards Deck I created.

The cards and descriptions we’ll be using will also be made available to print if you join the CREATRIX School.

There is a private Facebook Group you will be invited to join, and I offer bi-weekly Q&As, so you can get all the questions answers that might come up along the way.

In some chapters, we will also look at our individual Wheel of Colours, as it is a super useful tool to bring more clarity into our lives and to find out what we each need in certain situations.

As I make the Wheel of Colours individually for each person, it’s not included in all course packages, but you will get a discount if you join the CREATRIX School. And you can also participate without knowing your Wheel of Colours. It might just be more fun.

Now all that’s left for you to do is to join and see for yourself.