Community – Week 2 – Pt. 1

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How to learn to love triggers

Dear Creatrix,

How was your weekend?

In the last lesson, we thought about how we can decide for and against in life with each thought, word and decision we make.

And how whatever we decide will either result in a joyful, exciting expansion of life or bring it to a sad halt.

And we looked at how everything, but especially interactions with other people, become easier when we base them on love.

Today we will look at how to not take things personally and how to take triggers for what they are – not something to blame others for, or even exclude them for – but a way for us to grow.

I watched parts of the Gaia emersion conference over the weekend and saw some really inspiring talks.

One was from Regina Meredith, and she shared a message from her guides, which I would like to pass on to you, as it fits here so well.

The message said very plainly, that as humans, it would do us a great service, if we overcame our need to judge others.

It always makes me very happy, to get these kinds of confirmations from surprising sources, as it was what I was thinking about over the weekend for this lesson as well.

In the last week, I shared some of the experiences with you, I had in communities in the past, and the most painful one I had to witness – was exclusion.

And that is always a result of judgement. One person, or a group of people, judging another.

But let’s start at the beginning.

When we join or start building a community, we usually have wonderful intentions.

We want to create something better than we have now, we would like to combine our strengths to build something helpful and useful.

But if we do this, unaware of the pitfalls, we might fail, and even worse, cause a lot of pain and destroy more than we build.

Or just waste a lot of energy unnecessarily.

In social justice movements, we’ve been talking about calling people in and out, about racism, sexism, ableism, privileges and their abuse – a lot.

If you are not aware of these discussions – you can look for them online.

And all of these discussions are valid and have been necessary and will continue to be necessary as long as they come up – because that means people still have questions around these things.

We have to be aware that all structures that exist today, are based on the colonialist idea that some people are more right, that some people have more rights than others – even though that’s not true.

But none of us has yet lived in any other way – so it appears to be true, as this is what is being practised.

Inequality and injustice is what we see everywhere – that’s the first thing we have to acknowledge, to not continue to create the same thing in just a different variation.

If we are then clear that we want to create something else, of course, this is as difficult as it gets, as we’ve not yet seen or experienced anything else – and no one has experience here yet that we could follow.

We’ll have to make ourselves vulnerable and go through trial an error until we figure it out.

And I guess this is where I also entered – in the trial and error period.

So, apart from a few exceptions, all that I’ve seen, are new communities and places where the power structures have simply been turned on their head instead of resolving them.

Of course, people have attempted to change things, and I’m sure there are exceptions.

What I’ve seen though is, that the people who felt excluded and disempowered all their lives, now, as they want to create an alternative, instead of creating something else or new, simply used the same strategies only this time for their own advantage.

People who had experienced exclusion created structures, in which they were in the powerful position now, and exercised the right to exclude others and make them feel the same powerlessness they had felt all their lives.

And maybe that is a necessary first step to see that that is also not the solution either.

So I’m not trying to judge here either, I know everyone involved, really, honestly believed they were doing the best thing they possibly could to create more equality and that they also did in some ways.

And I applaud everyone for trying, for failing and for learning and for trying some more  – it’s why I am where I am now, and it is why we are where we are now collectively and how we can become even better.

But, what would be an alternative?

It’s actually quite simple – we have to stop judging each other.

Let’s have a look at how that can be done.

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Community – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

Starting today, and for the next four weeks, we will think about how we can be at our best with others and how we can use our unique abilities, gifts and talents to contribute to the greater good of all.

As the first week of each chapter in the CREATRIX School is all about assessing where we are, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, and invite more of what we do want, we start this chapter by looking at our hopes for the future of our world as well as the experiences we’ve made in community so far.

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 2

What do we mean when we say communities, and why do we need them?

There are different ways for communities to be organized. Sometimes, all people are equal and come together to organize things as equals.

Sometimes, there’s an initiator, or someone who finances the project and other people who organize and implement it.

Sometimes, there are some people who are paid and other people who volunteer.

What are the different kinds of projects or communities you have been involved in, or would like to get involved in, in your life?

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 1 – Pt. 3

How do you envision our future?

It’s easy to think there are so many problems in this world – what am I supposed to do about it – I can’t do anything but make the best of it – and that’s true to some extent – but also not entirely.

Because we’re not just here to get by. We’re not just here to arrange ourselves with what is already here – we are life and a part of the great symphony of life that’s playing right now, in this moment, and we get to contribute to it.

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 2

How can we create a real alternative to what we currently have?

In this lesson, we talk about how judgement can be a very useful tool on our journey to becoming our most authentic and best selves and create the communities we wish for, as long as we don’t use it to condemn other people or to establish superiority.

We also think about how every trigger is really here for us to grow, and not something to be afraid of or to avoid and how punishment, just like suppression, doesn’t lead to anything beautiful – and what we can do instead.

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 2 – Pt. 3

On Freedom, Responsibility and our Nature

In this lesson, we look at how freedom and responsibility are linked and what that has to do with consciousness.

And how with a raised consciousness also comes more freedom and thus, by raising our consciousness and finding more inner peace, we also obliterate the need for violence.

And we look at another essential thing, that will help us be more aware in our community interactions – our role as humans in nature, in this world.

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 1

What’s your unique superpower?

We start this lesson with a short review of what we’ve learned in the last few lessons to resolve the most common problems found in communities today.

And then we begin to look at our unique superpowers, so we can become more confident in the way we contribute to any community, group or project we choose to support.

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 2

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 2

What’s your favourite archetype?

In this lesson, we dive deeper into the roles we can inhabit in a group or community setting.

Are you better fit for a creative role or a leading role, or both, or something else?

Knowing what we are good at, and also thinking about what we would like to learn and grow into, can help us immensely to find our place in any community setting and to be able to contribute in the best possible way.

This is also a great resource if you’d ever like to start your own project or company and can help you make sure all vital roles will be covered so that the project can run in the best possible way.

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 3

Community – Week 3 – Pt. 3

What’s your (stress) archetype?

Of course, things don’t always go the way we want them too.

Sometimes we get stressed, overwhelmed, take on too much or don’t dare to step into our power.

But we can always change and learn and grow.

Looking at the Occasional Archetypes, like the thief, victim, fool, hero_ine, adventurer and so on can help us to recognize these archetypes in ourselves and others and help us to come back into balance, whenever we slip into them.

Community – Week 4 – Pt. 1

Community – Week 4 – Pt. 1

Let your heart be your guide

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