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Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

Dear Creatrix,

I’m super excited to welcome you to this new chapter in the CREATRIX School.

In the last chapter, we talked about finding out how we can become our best selves and what it takes for us to be at our best – to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Starting today, and for the next four weeks, we will think about how we can be at our best with others and how we can use our unique abilities, gifts and talents to contribute to the greater good of all.

As the first week of each chapter in the CREATRIX School is all about assessing where we are, so we can let go of what doesn’t serve us any more, and invite more of what we do want, we start this chapter by looking at our hopes for the future of our world as well as the experiences we’ve made in community so far.

And for this, I have one very important (and surprisingly not yet obvious) mindset shift that I would like to share with you even before we start, and to show you where I’m coming from, I would also like to share a bit with you about my personal history.

When building communities, we have one very important choice to make:

Are we building this community to be for or against something?

I am German, and I am very conscious of my history.

WWII was no joke, and my grandparents and great-grandparents survived it, one grandfather fought in the war, one deserted, my grandmother was displaced and crossed the Baltic Sea on foot, another was sent on work duty.

Family members disappeared, and countless emotions were suppressed and there was never room for them, in my grandparents’ or my parents’ generation, to fully work through what happened – it’s what I have to do now, if I don’t want to pass on the negative aspects of what they experienced to the next generation.

With the wars going on in the world right now, it is obvious that not everybody has learned their lesson yet, though.

And if we don’t learn what we have to learn in the comparatively easy way, by doing the inner work, we have to learn it the hard way, by actually experiencing it first hand.

And of course, this is only true for those who are not physically in a war right now. Those whose life is in danger now can’t sit down and do the inner work, but those who are not – can do the work to prevent more suffering.

And for that, it helps to focus on a goal.

I can’t stretch enough, how important this is.

Where our attention goes, our energy goes.

So if we want to form communities, alliances, temporary or lasting, to create change – we have to align focusing on a common goal and not by being in opposition.

If we focus on being against something, like being against the war, we still fuel the war.

If we are against another group of people (even if we think they are the bad ones), we are still fuelling hate.

The same is true on a personal level as well. If we want to lose weight, but keep thinking we are fat, then we will remain to be what we think we are. It’s only when we learn how to create an image of what we desire and begin to see that in ourselves, then we will also start to become that.

This is so important. If we create alliances, they need to be to create the changes we want to see in the world – not to stop other people from doing something bad.

And this is something that has not been understood and that is still going wrong in many communities and groups I see today.

We have to remember that we are all one. And that turning against each other will never bring any solution.

Whatever we see in another person, that we don’t like – is an aspect of ourselves.

If we don’t resolve it in ourselves, but instead want to silence the other person, we’re suppressing and silencing that part of ourselves and this way no (re-)solution can be reached.

This might seem weird and illogical at first, but we have a whole month to go into this deeper, and it’s going to be fun and challenging, but I promise you, that you will come out feeling a lot more empowered and knowing how you can solve conflicts with much more ease and grace.

And there’s a playlist to go with this chapter as well, which you can listen to below.

And then, today, to get started, I would like to invite you to do one simple exercise.