RELATIONSHIPS – Week 1 – Pt. 2

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โ† CHAPTER OVERVIEW

What can you learn from your past relationships?

 

Dear Creatrix,

I hope you could enjoy tuning into this topic and thinking about what you are missing now and wishing for when it comes to love and relationships.

One of the key focuses of this course will be on self-love.

So, if thinking about love and relationships somehow makes you sad because you donโ€™t have what you wish for right now, try to embrace the sadness and see what might be underneath it.

Because you so deserve to be loved, exactly the way you are and however you wish to be loved, and you have the power to make that happen as well – it might just take some more work and self-love to get there.

Our world, the way most people do things and think about things, is completely turned on its head.

We grow up being told, or being shown, that having a partner, a prestigious job, and owning a boat or a car or a house are the most important things.

We are told what we have or do somehow defines us, and so itโ€™s easy to spend our lifetime chasing after things and achievements – because we were taught that these outside markers somehow lead to fulfilment.

But they don’t.

When I say things are turned on their head, then that is because we tend to believe that through these things, we will somehow find our self-worth.

But we are worthy, complete and loveable just for being ourselves, without any achievements, skills or things we have or own – and we are the ones who have to allow ourselves to see us this way.

Often we are surprised when people who look like they have everything going for them are still unhappy. It’s because there’s no connection between owning things or having things and our happiness.

And we donโ€™t need a partner to be happy either, happiness is an inside job.

It’s actually quite dangerous to make our happiness depend on someone else – because it awards a kind of responsibility to other people, which they might not be able to hold.

And if we canโ€™t find happiness in ourselves, we also won’t be happy with our partners because they will always meet us where we are, plus bring in their own baggage.

So the most useful thing we can do, whether we are in a relationship and want to change things, or whether we are looking to find the right partner for us right now, is to focus on ourselves and how we can become someone we’d enjoy spending time with and begin to give to ourselves, what we might now be expecting from others.

This way, we can be our best selves when we come together with the people we love or would like to love.

It doesn’t mean that we have to have it all figured out yet, it simply means that we can begin to accept ourselves for who we are, and that we dare to be vulnerable and seen for who we are instead of hiding behind shame, or fear, or resentment.

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๐ŸŒˆ You have the power to create your reality.

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