RELATIONSHIPS – Week 4 – Pt. 3

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What have we learned?

Dear Creatrix,

First of all, congratulations!

You made it through another chapter of the CREATRIX School.

And this has been the toughest one yet, at least for me.

How do you feel? What have you learned?

What stood out to you?

What was most surprising?

In the last lesson, we looked at how we started this course and the clarity we found in the first week about our wishes and desires.

We also saw that we can use our past to learn from it and get a better idea of what we want now, instead of thinking we are doomed to repeat the same things, or that what has happened to us until now is somehow a reflection of who we are and not who we were.

In the second week we looked at how we can use the Wheel of Colours, curious inquiry (questions!) and Archetypes to help us get even more clarity about who we are and what we need and wish for, so we can confidently start to create the relationships we wish for.

And in the third week we added some practical tools and skills.

We looked at how to apologize well, how to resolve conflicts and how to communicate peacefully.

Then we moved to intimacy and how to energize a relationship and create connection through touch and physical contact, and how to safely navigate boundaries and communication here as well.

Is there anything else that is necessary to talk about when it comes to energizing our relationships?

I didn’t have internet for the last few days, so I had some extra time to think and reflect.

I can see already how much this chapter has changed me, and while it wasn’t always easy to fully explore what has been lingering unseen inside of me, so I can feel more comfortable in relationships with other people, I can literally see the effects all around me – in the conversations I have and how I’m in contact with people now.

And I’d love to hear how things have worked out for you – just leave a comment below.

But I also somehow felt like something was still missing.

Yet, until now, I couldn’t quite put my finger on it.

We did a lot of work on exploring our desires and wishes and finding self-love in the past few weeks.

And this is absolutely elemental, not just for being in relationships with other people.

No relationship is more important than the one we have with ourselves.

Yet, especially when looking at ourselves and our wishes and desires, it might also be useful to consider the difference between wanting and needing something a little more closely.

I told you in the last lesson that I might in some cases have been listening to my wants more than my needs, and it makes me smile to write it down because wanting (green in the Wheel of Colours, my second colour) is also something that has been driving me all my life and has been getting me quite far.

My needs, however, I’m not always so good with.

The reasons for this, I think, are not so important.

I think many women have been raised to put other’s needs before their own, and I definitely lived prioritizing other’s needs over mine most of my life.

I became aware of it some years ago, and I started working on it then and have been getting a lot better, but there’s still room for improvement, though it feels that now I’m finally getting to the bottom of it and might be able to resolve it altogether. We’ll see.

Abraham Maslow, the founder of self-ac…

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