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You are perfect because you are who you are 🌷

Dear Creatrix,

How are you feeling today?

Now that we know how to process our emotions, and know how we can create more emotions that we would like to have, and now that we’ve come to terms with the fact, that each of us is always doing the best they can, and therefore we might start to just enjoy our lives, mistakes and all – we will see why each of us is also perfect – no matter what.

You Are Perfect ❤️

What is the first thing that comes to your mind, when you hear that you are perfect?
That you’re not perfect?

That you couldn’t be perfect because you made this mistake or didn’t do something like you were supposed to?

That you couldn’t be perfect because there was a time when you disappointed or hurt someone?

What if I told you that none of that mattered and that you are perfect, no matter what you do?

What if I shared with you that we are each perfect, exactly the way we are, simply because we exist?

You might have heard people say God doesn’t make mistakes, which I think means the same thing, but I like to look at things independent of a certain belief-system.

It doesn’t matter if we believe in a God that created us, a Universe that has our back, a life-force that pushes us to expand or think that we are here by pure chance – we came into existence, we are here now and each of us is unique and has unique experiences, talents and gifts, that no one else has.

Many of us grew up believing that we were determined by our genes or genetical dispositions, but in reality, our experiences can even change our genes.

This is why it is so important that we consciously choose how we live our lives.

And this also includes choosing what we believe to be true about ourselves.

In this lesson, I will show you, why I think that believing that we are perfect is much better for us, than believing that we are not.

There was a time when I didn’t just find it hard to believe that I could be perfect, but I found it absolutely impossible to believe.

If you feel similar, then this explanation might help.

As I see it now, we have two options. One is to believe that we are perfect and the other one, which, I think, is the predisposition for many of us, is that we are not and that really, we couldn’t be perfect because there are far too many ways to mess things up.

Let’s have a look at them both:

Theory 1: You are not perfect and never will be 🥹

What many people think of, when they want to contradict the idea that each of us is perfect, is perfectionism.

Perfectionism has been proven to be counterproductive in achieving anything because it sets standards that are too high.

It imprisons us in a state of doubt, and sets us up for failure because we are trying to reach unachievable goals.

So, if we think that we are not perfect, but strive for perfection for ourselves, something that is realistically unachievable, then we boycott and limit ourselves, just like we would boycott and limit any project if we tried to make it ‘perfect’.

Also, what would the perfect me, or you be like or look like, and who gets to decide or define that?

Also, if I’m not yet perfectly me, then who am I?

If the perfect state of being me is impossible to obtain, then wouldn’t that mean that being me is impossible?

Yet, I am possible every day. I prove to be possible every single day, no matter how messy or fulfilled my life is. I’m still me and you are still you. Each in our own messy, joyful, growing & perfect ways.

And no matter what we will do and how much we change or improve, or relapse or fail, it will always remain true.

I will still be perfectly me, and you will still be perfectly you, because we are always the only way we can be.

Let’s have a look at a less personal example.

When I think of perfect, the first image that comes to my mind is a perfect porcelain vase: with intricate patterns and so much detail that it might overwhelm us, yet no irregularity or mistakes anywhere to be found.

But is that vase really perfect?

It might be designed to perfection, it might be produced to perfection, but it might also not look good on my table or be much too big for the one flower I would like to put in a vase.

So, in that case, the vase might be perfect for some, and not for others, or it might be perfect for some occasions and not for others.

This also illustrates the idea, that everything is essentially meaningless, until we give it a meaning. And we get to chose which meaning we want to give to something.

There is no objective criteria of what makes a vase perfect, UNLESS someone defines what a perfect vase is or creates a style or norm according to which something meeting certain criteria is a perfect exemplar of that style or norm.

However, this is still completely arbitrary to one person’s or a group of people’s opinions or decisions.

It is still open to debate what is perfect and what isn’t and there will always be someone who thinks something is not perfect and will find a plausible reason for it.

Looking at it this way, perfect is defined by the human eye and not even in a democratic way, as in: when most people think it’s perfect, then it is.

In reality, it’s more like even if 99% of all people think the vase is perfect and 1% thinks it isn’t, it will most likely remain imperfect in our minds.

This is also how we treat ourselves most of the time, when we believe we aren’t perfect.

If there’s anyone who might have anything negative to say about us, or if we ourselves are that person who thinks negatively about ourselves, then that must be more true than the 99% who don’t think so, or simply have no opinion on that at all.

Often it takes just a look or a word from someone else for us to question ourselves and to feel imperfect, yet that does not make that an adequate picture of reality.

And to make matters worse, even if we were all to agree that the vase is perfect, or that we were perfect at one moment in time by some definition, then it might still not always remain so.

At any moment, the vase might break and dissolve into so many pieces that it’s not even a vase any more, or we might change, make a mistake, grow, change, do something different or die, and we too would lose our state of being perfect.

The vase once was earth, got alchemized into clay and transformed into a vase, and will go back to being clay and becoming part of the earth.

Our bodies, like the vase, are made up of single particles and pieces, and held together by what others have scientific explanations for, but to me seems like pure magic.

Just like the vase, these tiny particles came together to eventually form a tiny human that, which with time and shaped by our circumstances, grew to become who we are now.

Nourished by what came from the earth, we will eventually become earth again, to nourish others, just like the vase – each after we have fulfilled our calling.

Isn’t that process in itself kind of magical and perfect?

Then let’s explore the other option.