Let’s make new friends – while being sober

Drinking alcohol seems like such a normal part of the lives of many. Just looking for stock photos of ‘friends’, it’s difficult to find pictures without alcoholic beverages in them.

We get offered free drinks at restaurants, and often people act as if you are insulting them, if you don’t choose to have a drink with them. But we don’t have to be an alcoholic to not want to drink.

We may simply wish not to cause unnatural highs and lows, that don’t serve us.

After all, alcohol is a depressant and while it may lift us up while we drink it, it can also drag us further down, after.

I didn’t drink until I was in my early twenties, because I was diagnosed with epilepsy when I was 15 and the doctors told me that drinking might cause more seizures, and also that drinking alcohol, while taking medication, gives your liver extra work.

But after I left my home and found out that many of the things I was raised to believe before I went to college, weren’t true, I decided to give alcohol a try as well. And it changed my world.

All my insecurities – gone.

I could stay out and party as long as I wanted. People liked me, and I was often the centre of the party.

Sure, the next day was always tough – unless, you just got another drink and continued.

And so I finished university, earned a master’s degree, worked, founded a non-profit and much more while drinking, maybe not every day, but almost.

Until I started to lose friends, to mental health and physical health issues.

Until I realized that I wanted to try something else.

I remember that beginning stage quite vividly. I had an argument with my girlfriend at the time, and I had no idea how to process it in any other way than to go out drinking with my friends.

And so I paced up and down the bathroom floor, trying to regulate myself, until it was finally time to sleep. When I woke up the next day, I was surprised – because I felt great!

Not hung over, not numb, not sad, but actually able to do something about what had been bothering me, instead of just ignoring it, because I had no power anyway, when I woke up with a hang over.

And it helped me realize that I had never actually learned how to process my emotions in a normal way.

More than that, after a while, a lot of what, I thought, was my depression, disappeared. A lot of what I thought was anxiety, disappeared.

And I realized that a lot of what I had thought and felt in the past ten years, wasn’t actually me, but the alcohol.

Food – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a new chapter in the CREATRIX School

This is going to be exciting! We will look at our food stories, and how care and nourishment and food are connected, we will see what we need to have a healthy diet – and mindset, and how to create a sacred and mindful kitchen.

And, in this lesson, we look at all of these topics a little bit, to become more familiar with these topics and to be able to set our goals for this chapter well.

Food – Week 1 – Pt. 2

Let’s explore our food stories

In this lesson, we explore how our past influences our present.

We will look at our relationship to food growing up and how this still shows in our present, and then we will look at what that tells us about how we deal with our emotions now.

Do we try to use food to emotionally regulate? Because bringing awareness to this, is the first step to creating healthier eating patterns.

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Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 1

Welcome to a New Chapter in the CREATRIX School

In this chapter, we are going to focus on the friendships in our lives and how we can make new friends, in any phase of our lives, and how we can grow and also heal with with our friends.

And we will start this chapter by asking ourselves some questions to find out where we are and where we would like to go in terms of friendships and true connection.

Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 2

How can we overcome loneliness? 🩷

Let’s explore more of what we are wishing for and see how we can overcome loneliness – individually and collectively.

Because we do all need each other. Friendships can bring us closer to our shadows, and they can help us heal. More friends are not necessarily better than a few good ones – and in the end, it all boils down to what we really wish for.
What’s that for you?

Friendships – Week 1 – Pt. 3

What would an ideal friendship look like for you?

In this lesson, we think about friendships past and present and what makes them great and also what makes us great friends.

It can be quite difficult to be really honest about the things we wish for in life, but we’ll do it anyway, as it is the only way that we can actually have all that we wish for and that our soul desires.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 1

How can we be a great friend?

In this lesson, I share a bit about my own story with friendships, and the different stages of letting go of my past.

So see, if you can relate.

And then from there we continue by thinking about what we would like to have in terms of friendship now.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 2

What are your friendship roles?

We start this lesson again, by looking back at what has worked for us in the past when making new friends, to see if we can still use some of the same strategies and what we’s like to change when meeting new people now.

And then we also look at the different friendship archetypes to see how to make sure that we are covered in all areas when forming new friendships now.

Friendships – Week 2 – Pt. 3

What the Wheel of Colours can tell you about your needs when it comes to friendships

The Wheel of Colours can help us to understand ourselves better, and there are certain colours and fields that can help us with creating conscious friendships.

One of them is the colour white, which tells us in which are of our lives we need to the presence and connection to other people the most.

Friendships – Week 3 – Pt. 1

Why does it get easier when we self-actualize together?

All problems in our world can be solved by raising our consciousness.

Because the higher the consciousness, the more we realize we’re all one, and that we all benefit from rising together, from helping each other to thrive as our unique selves.

So, in today’s lesson, we are going to explore this and how we can support each other in practical ways.

Friendships – Week 3 – Pt. 2

How can we build conscious friendships?

In the last lesson, we opened up to the idea of creating a support system for ourselves, so we can thrive and grow supported by community.

Today, we will explore our values, to make sure that we will be supported in a way that aligns with our soul, and our unique needs and wishes.

Friendships – Week 3 – Pt. 3

How to set our intentions

Let’s look at how to set our intentions for ourselves and to support others with theirs.

Setting intentions and supporting others with theirs is a spiritual practice as well, as it can teach us how not to limit ourselves and others, and it can help us to act in non-judgemental loving and supportive ways.

Ritual: Connecting without Recreational Drugs

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