Thoughts on how to communicate well
What came up for you when you started visualizing your ideal relationship?
What does a relationship look like for you, in which all your needs and wishes are met?
And while you bring that image to your mind, I would love for us to remember something very important and that is, that it’s great to visualize things we want and wish for because that’s how we make them possible and draw them closer to us, and the more we practice this, the easier it will become and the more will become possible.
But if reality does not work out exactly how we imagine, it does not mean it’s not working.
It just means it’s not working yet, and that things are on the way.
In a world that is seemingly based on doing, it can be difficult to take the time to do nothing that is visible and instead focus on the outcome we wish to draw it to us.
But the energy and thoughts we send out, influence everything.
It really makes a difference whether we focus on what we want or on what we don’t want or fear.
Where our attention goes, our energy goes, and that’s what we draw to us.
As this is something that has been coming up a lot this week, and I see how people don’t trust their abilities, I’d like to quote one of my greatest teachers, Michael Singer.
He said that our mind is like a car – a great device to get us places, but if we take our hands off the stirring wheel, it can also run us off a cliff.
Our main job in life is to gently direct our mind back on track, onto the road that leads us to where we want to go.
And where YOU would like to go, is up for you to decide.
When we have a clear image of where we want to go in life, it does not mean that we can’t stray from the path and that it’s not sometimes fun to just go for a walk without any direction and let us be taken by surprise by what happens when we just go walking or driving around, but it allows us to always remember where we want to go when we get lost.
So we have a clear image of what we’d like to have and where we’d like to go, and then we begin to enjoy the way to get there.
And on our way we have to interact with other people, especially the ones we are or want to be in a relationship with, and while visualization can help immensely here, we also need to practice our practical abilities and try them out, fail, learn, grow and try again until we feel confident and become masters at human interaction – if that’s what we aspire to become.
And today’s lesson might bring us a bit closer to this goal.
What does being in a happy relationship mean to you?
But before we get to the practical part, let’s come back to visualising our ideal relationship and the questions from the last lesson.
And I think that this is a good opportunity to talk about different relationship types as well.
What I realized, when thinking about my past relationships and how I could imagine things to be different now, in my ideal relationship, is that I’d like to have different people for different things.
In the past, I’ve always had a large group of friends around when I was in a relationship, but often I also wanted to do everything with my partner and my friends at the same time.
I feel, like now that I’ve grown so much, that I would actually like to have more space to keep doing things on my own and with other people and only do certain things with my partner as well.
Like breathing in and out, I think it energizes every relationship to move apart and come back together again, not with fights and drama, but as a steady rhythm.
I’ve also been in all kinds of different relationships; monogamous and polyamorous, and with people who identify as male or female or non-binary, cis-, trans- or queer.
I know that some people have preferences here, but for me, it really all depends …