Let’s thrive together
To thrive in life, we don’t just need to remember our source, and our magical helpers, re-parent ourselves, and heal our inner children, we also have to learn how to build strong relationships outside of love and family – and this is where the friendship archetypes come in.
Because our friendships can have different qualities as well. Finding clarity about these roles and recognizing them in our daily lives helps us to bring balance into our lives – because once we know what we are currently missing, we can start to invite that in to feel fully supported.
What are your friendships like? Are you a mentor? A mentee? A companion or competitor? And how can you make sure to live all of these qualities?
When you pull one of these cards, you know which role to step into.
The Friendship Archetypes
After we’ve learned to befriend all our Inner Child Archetypes and determined which one can help us in a certain situation and which one might need some healing, and after we looked at the Family Archetypes and decided about which roles we consciously wish to take on, and how we want to shape these roles, it’s time to look at our friendships.
These four cards and archetypes can help us to reflect on our current friendships and help us to define what we might actually want to invite into our lives – to feel balanced, seen and appreciated and not exhausted or not met in our friendships.
Using Oracle Cards is a great way to explore our subconscious, and to get guidance on where we are and what our best options are in the moment when we draw a card. Drawing cards daily, can also help us to get to know ourselves a lot better and to come into alignment with our soul, and our true selves, as we begin to recognize our subconscious patterns.
Working with these Archetypes in particular, can help us to realize why we may be stuck in certain ways, because of what we believe to be true about ourselves or others, and as a next step, it can help us to direct and design our lives more consciously and gracefully.
Inviting one or more of the Archetype posters into your home can support you while you work on certain aspects of yourself, either by reminding you to strengthen and align with the qualities they represent or by reminding you to embrace and heal them so you can eventually overcome them, and the things that have been limiting you so far.
You have the power to create your world according to your own ideas, needs and wishes – with these descriptions of the different archetypes I share my thoughts about how I think we can live together peacefully, joyfully and lovingly, in the new golden age, or heaven on earth and how each of us can be fulfilled, loved and truly happy. 🧚♀️
All you have to do is find out if this resonates with you and get your poster, or book a discovery call with me, to start stepping into your full power and potential - for more joy, love, success and happiness.
Companion Archetype
A companion is a friend who you share your life with. Someone you trust, someone you have possibly known for many years, someone you spend time with, and who supports you as much as you support them.
You don’t have to do the same things, to be companions, though it helps if you share some interests. Maybe it’s a travel buddy, or the person you meet to go dancing or to the museum or exhibitions with.
This relationship is based on equality. One might need the other more at some times, and at other times it shifts, but generally both sides can count on each other and ask each other for help and support or just talk or do and experience things with each other.
How many relationships like that do you have in your life right now? What can you do to become a great companion for someone else? And what would you need or like from your companion?
Competitor Archetype
A competitor, on the other hand, is someone who works in the same field as you. It could be a teammate, a classmate, or just someone your age, that you compare yourself with.
Now, comparison is not always the best thing. For our individual personal growth, it makes much more sense to compare us to our past selves, than to other people, if we want to see how much we’ve grown or how much more we would like to grow.
However, sometimes it can also be inspiring to see others succeed and to learn from that and because it can push us to become even better or set our goals even higher.
When I think of a competitor in terms of friendship, I always think of Rory and Paris from the Gilmore Girls.
They went to school together and often competed for the same positions or roles, but somehow they managed to also become friends through it, because having the same goals, can also help us connect and to challenge and help each other and going for the same things, also gives us shared experiences and allows us to understand and support each other in very special ways.
Mentor Archetype
A mentor is someone who shares their life experience and knowledge and helps guide others.
While I think that having companions and competitors is quite common in today’s world, the importance of mentors and mentees is often overlooked.
But we can learn here from other cultures and times.
In Ancient Greece, for example, it was quite common, that older men started relationships with younger men. Those relationships were sometimes sexual, but they were also meant to mentor the younger partner and support them on their journey of growing up and becoming a full man himself, at which point he would take on a younger partner to guide and mentor him.
Becoming a mentor to someone means becoming aware of the fact that we have something of value to give and share and that our contribution is necessary for the whole to thrive.
It means that we are ready to give without immediate compensation, but to give generously, kindly and lovingly from a full cup.
Mentee Archetype
A mentee is the one who benefits from having a mentor.
When I was growing up, I volunteered, tutored and babysat, and I learned so much through that, because while I was technically mentoring these younger children, there were also other mentors and parents present, and who I interacted with, who taught me things I couldn’t have learned at home.
We are mentees when we have a boss who is a great guide and teaches us things, or we can also see that we meet people who are in a different phase of their life or who have a different set of knowledge and experience who can teach us something and give us guidance.
Of course we also have to experience many things ourselves to be able to fully understnad them, but with every new endeavour we start it can help immensely to have someone by our side who can help us avoid some of the pitfalls.
I feel like most of the people I’m in contact with feel pretty lonely these days and like friendships aren’t what they used to be, or they are just not okay any more with friendships which feel one-sided or where they don’t really feel seen.
I remember always having a large group of friends and often having good times together, but I also remember so many times when I felt really lonely, even though I was surrounded by many kind and loving people.
And that has to do with the fact that feeling seen and heard, like everything else, has to start with ourselves. We have to learn to value and appreciate our presence and how to listen to our needs and feelings, and how to respect the way we see the world and what we wish to do in our lives.
Only once we allow ourselves to fully be ourselves, we will also be able to share our true selves with others, and that is what makes it easier to also feel seen and understood.
So if you’d like to find out how to become a really great friend, so that you can then also create the friendships you desire, join the CREATRIX School, or just work through the Friendship chapter yourself.
It’s really awesome that you are here – and surely not a coincidence.
If you like to dive deeper into getting to know your true self, consider ordering your unique Wheel of Colours, so you can remember the colours of your life and start integrating them, to gain more personal freedom, happiness and, if you like, even enlightenment.
Or join the CREATRIX School to continue working with these archetypes.
We work with the friendship archetypes in the Friendship Chapter.
Learn how to overcome loneliness and make meaningful, kind, supportive and inspiring connections
Because on the way to becoming our true and divine selves, we are bound to lose some friends and might at some point want to make new ones.
But for that and to overcome the loneliness, we can experience when we go through existential changes, we first have to meet ourselves.
And to do that, we will explore our inherent goodness, in this chapter of the CREATRIX School (or 4-week course), and bring in a lot of love and patience, overcome some fears and begin to safely open ourselves to the right people in new ways.
More Resources
You can see the full Archetype Oracle Deck here.
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