The Friendship Archetypes
To thrive in life, we don’t just need to remember our source, and our magical helpers, re-parent ourselves, and heal our inner children, we also have to learn how to build strong relationships outside of love and family – and this is where the friendship archetypes come in.
Because our friendships can have different qualities as well. Finding clarity about these roles and recognizing them in our daily lives helps us to bring balance into our lives – because once we know what we are currently missing, we can start to invite that in to feel fully supported.
What are your friendships like? Are you a mentor? A mentee? A companion or competitor? And how can you make sure to live all of these qualities?
When you pull one of these cards, you know which role to step into.
Companion Archetype
A companion is a friend who you share your life with. Someone you trust, someone you have possibly known for many years, someone you spend time with, and who supports you as much as you support them.
You don’t have to do the same things, to be companions, though it helps if you share some interests. Maybe it’s a travel buddy, or the person you meet to go dancing or to the museum or exhibitions with.
Competitor Archetype
A competitor, on the other hand, is someone who works in the same field as you. It could be a teammate, a classmate, or just someone your age, that you compare yourself with.
Now, comparison is not always the best thing. For our individual personal growth, it makes much more sense to compare us to our past selves, than to other people, if we want to see how much we’ve grown or how much more we would like to grow.
When I think of a competitor in terms of friendship, I always think of Rory and Paris from the Gilmore Girls. They went to school together and often competed for the same positions or roles, but somehow they managed to also become friends through it, because having the same goals, can also help us connect and to challenge and help each other.
Mentor Archetype
A mentor is someone who shares their life experience and knowledge and helps guide others. And a mentee is the one who learns from their mentor.
While I think that having companions and competitors is quite common in today’s world, the importance of mentors and mentees is often overlooked.
But we can learn here from other cultures and times.
In Ancient Greece, for example, it was quite common, that older men started relationships with younger men. Those relationships were sometimes sexual, but they were also meant to mentor the younger partner and support them on their journey of growing up and becoming a full man themselves, at which point they would take on a younger partner to guide and mentor them.
I’ve also seen this work for a friend of mine. He had an older partner who he was with until he died, who kind of adopted him and put him through college. After he died, my friend found a younger partner, who he helped through college, and they’ve now been together for I think more than 15 years.
I also remember that when I was in High School, I tutored some younger kids in maths, and we actually became good friends as well.
Mentee Archetype
Description is coming soon.
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More Resources
You can see the full Archetype Oracle Deck here.
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