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Who do you wish to be in the family of your dreams?
Dear Creatrix,
That was quite an intense journey so far, wasn’t it?
What is your hidden family inheritance? And how are you dealing with it? I’d love to hear about your experiences, in the comments below or in our Facebook group.
And now that we brought so much light into the shadows of our past, it’s time to start using our new-found clarity, confidence and the wisdom we have gained through this exploration to start consciously creating the families of our dreams.
For that, we will begin this lesson by thinking about the roles we would like to embody in this lifetime, in our families, and/or the ones we might already be embodying now.
Are you, or would you like to be, a mother? A father? A zaza? Or a grandmother?
We are all somebody’s child, that’s for sure, no matter how we relate to our biological parents or the people who raised us, and we’ve looked at the different roles (our inner children) we took on in that capacity last week.
Now it’s time to look at the other roles we (wish to) embody today.
Who are you in your family other than a child? Are you a mother, father, grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, sibling?
And who else would you wish to be in this lifetime? Are there ideas, dreams, wishes, images, that you have of yourself, but haven’t lived yet?
In the picture above (and below) you can see the 4 different archetypes we can embody when it comes to the active parts of creating a family, and we will investigate those today.
Those are:
► mother
► father
► zaza
► grandparent
I think we all have a pretty clear picture in our minds when we think about the mother, the father and the grandparent archetype. Whether it is an image of what we had, when we were growing up, or what we wished for.
But funny enough, while the most essential qualities might overlap for some, not all do.
So, what comes up for you, when you think of a mother or a father or a grandparent?
Like all the other things we looked at before – nothing just is – everything is created by us, and every creation starts with the image we have in our minds.
What a mother looked like in our imagination and in reality 100 years ago is different from what we see and imagine now.
The image of a mother is somewhat different in different parts of the world, and it’s different in every family and to each person.
Times are changing, circumstances are changing and so are the demands.
While in the past, fathers weren’t so deeply involved in raising children, in most families in the west, and women were supposed to stay at home with the kids instead, many consciously choose to create a change here, and look for different options – because we’ve experienced it ourselves, how painful it can be when the parents are absent most of the time.
We know that we need all parts, that it helps to have different people lovingly involved in the lives of our children, or that it takes a village to raise a child, as if that’s not there – it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and alone.
So, today, we are going to check out our (subconscious) ideas about these roles, which might be a lot more surprising than we’d expect now.
And then we can begin to think about how we would like to embody, form and shape these roles consciously, for ourselves, so they can fulfil and nourish us, and will be what we hope for them to be (and not surprise us in ways that will be difficult to handle later on).
