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The Colour White – Relationships & Conscious connection

The Wheel of Colours has 13 fields and 13 colours – each field represents a different challenge, gift or lesson which we have to master in our lifetimes and the colours in our unique wheel show each of us how we can master them best, with our unique abilities.

We are all made up of the same colours, but the colours are arranged differently for each of us on our wheels.

For example, white is the colour for relationships and conscious connections. And relationships doesn’t only refer to love relationships here, but also friendships and all kinds of interactions with other beings, really.

As human beings, we are made to be in relationship with each other, but some of us are more introvert and others more extrovert, some thrive when they have lots of people around them and others feel like they need to recharge after interacting with others.

Those who have white at the beginning of their wheel, usually thrive in the company of others, while those with white in the second half of their wheel tend to like more time alone and by themselves.

Yet, we all need to find a balance between being OK when we are with others and by ourselves, if we want to be able to enjoy our lives and live them fully.

Which is easier for you right now, to be alone or with others? What do you need to thrive? And how can you find the right balance?

You might be able to guess, looking at your life and how you feel.

But if you want to be sure, you may also order your unique Wheel of Colours from me, to find out.

If you have your wheel already and/or think you can use some help to fine-tune your ability to safely connect with others – then I’d be happy to show you some practical ways to do that, in this article.

And the more we learn to peacefully work together and support each other, the more we can all begin to thrive.

But, if you, like me, were raised around a lot of western ideology and rational thinking, you were most likely not trained very well to discover your unique views and abilities to contribute to the whole, or with the idea that there is no competition, just addition and so it felt like you had to fight for your space when it was really always already there.

But it doesn’t matter, what your experiences have been until now – because we can begin to learn and adapt to new and more helpful and fulfilling ways of being – the second we decide that that’s what we want to do, and as you are here, the best time to start creating some changes in your relationships might be now.

1. What Do You Need to Enjoy the Company of Others?

From what I have been observing so far, the key to feeling good in the company of others is to have a good sense of self.

When you know who you are, where your boundaries are and how to set them kindly, but firmly, then any interaction becomes easy.

I’ve founded the CREATRIX School for exactly this reason, so that each person, who would like to know, can find out what it is exactly they wish for in any life situation and how to get that.

And it’s quite fascinating for me to see, more and more, with each day of doing this work, how everything has its light and dark side.

When you are a people person, and thrive in the presence of others, it also means that you often depend on them to thrive – so your learning is to figure out how to become more independent here and thrive and do your thing, without needing the attention of others.

Whereas when you are an empath or highly sensitive and feel a lot of what is going on around you and therefore get exhausted in the presence of others and would rather just work on things on your own, you also have to learn how to become independent of others, just in the opposite way, by not caring so much about what they think or do or wish and by learning to stand up for yourself.

Whatever side you lean towards, it helps to find out about your own unique needs, identity, contributions, hope and wishes and then to learn to communicate those and set your boundaries accordingly, so you can feel safe and happy around other people while also not depending on their approval to feel at your best.

What we see in other people is always a reflection of ourselves, so to change our relationship with others, we have to start changing our relationship with ourselves.

If you struggle with this, remember, in the end, we all want to feel safe.

When, growing up, we’ve learned that voicing our opinion and being our authentic selves, isn’t safe, we stopped being that, and it’s hard for us now – but it doesn’t mean we can’t learn it now.

Because we need to feel authentically seen and heard and allow ourselves to just be ourselves – to be happy and to feel free and powerful.

If we try to tone down, adjust, or change ourselves for the sake of others, we just feel more and more isolated and wrong and ultimately unhappy.

So the most important way to be – is yourself – as much as you can.

And for that, you need to get to know yourself.

People who grew up in challenging circumstances, often didn’t have the space to explore their true-selves because other things were demanded of them (survival, care for others, etc.) – so we have to find out about this now, to begin to relax and enjoy our lives.

So, just begin to check in with yourself – what makes you happy when it comes to relationships with other people?

When do you feel your best? 

If you feel best when you surround yourself with lots and lots of people, and you know it, that’s great, if you feel best in isolation, and you know it, that’s great as well – you get to create and shape your life and can make choices accordingly – just as long as you are conscious about it and can also live in different settings for a while, if that becomes necessary for whatever reason.

If we need things on the outside to be a certain way for us to continue with our lives and plans, life becomes difficult and things hard, so it really helps to know yourself here, and to begin to set up your circumstances so that your needs are met in the best possible way – while also making sure you take responsibility for your life and can be free no matter what.

And again, if you’d like to practice this, you are invited to join the CREATRIX School.

*According to the wheels I’ve made so far. I will update this occasionally.
The centre represents our core, our essence, the first six fields show the colours which come to us naturally, that we are born with, and the later ones represent the colours/lessons we have to learn, often painfully, to thrive in all areas of our life.

If you’d like to find out in which field the colour white is especially important for YOU, order your Wheel of Colours now.

2. What does it mean to be in relationship?

Often we think of romantic or love relationships when we hear the term relationship, but that is just one type of relationship that we have in our lives and, depending on how we choose to live and create this relationship, one that might be closer and more intimate than others.

But we also are in relationship with any person we interact with, and also with our environment, with other living and non-living things and with the spiritual world.

We can’t avoid it.

So, the choices and options we have here, are always about the quality of our relationships.

Do we want to have a large circle of friends and more superficial relationships? Or are we the kind of person that enjoys having two, three close friends and that’s it?

Do we want to be in an intimate relationship that goes deep and lasts a lifetime? Or would we rather have changing partners, either in serial monogamy or in practising polyamory?

Would we like to deepen our connection to the living or the dead? The supernatural or the physical?

Often, at the beginning of our lives, it feels like things are a certain way, but that is simply our default setting –  and we are here on this earth right now, to change it into something that we actually enjoy.

Before we wake up to this realization, it may seem as if some people are more popular than others, some like to be in the spotlight and some don’t, for some things are easier and for others harder.

But over time, hopefully, we come to realize that things can change and that we have the power to change them, and that what we see has a lot more to do with us than with other people.

To get to the point at which we recognize this, though, we first have to see a pattern, that somehow we always end up in the same spot or predicament and to begin to realize that that might have something to do with how we have lived and thought and acted up until this point.

Once we see that somehow certain things have not worked out for us in some area — yet, we have two options:

We can give up by thinking that’s just the way we are, and our fate, and continue as before, not knowing what to do, helpless and often feeling depressed – or we can recognize that we need to change something about ourselves to create a different result.

The blockage here is, that often we simply don’t know how because we’ve surrounded ourselves with people who experience things the same way we do and who don’t have solutions either.

And this is where the magic, the hero_ine’s journey begins – when we understand that now we have to and can find out how to change.

In the CREATRIX School we have four chapters in which we explore how we can create the best relationships when it comes to love, family, friendship and also community.

Because we can all use a little help and some more clarity here – there’s no right or wrong, but each of us has to find out what makes them happy when it comes to being in community and in relationship with other people – to also be able to have that.

Everything always starts with realizing that what is doesn’t fulfil us, and then to not accept that, but to find out what would or could make us happy instead, and then, as a next step, to start moving in that direction, by envisioning it and holding that vision.

3. How Can we Use the Colour White to Strengthen our Relationships?

It’s quite interesting for me to see that white is the colour for peace – which means peaceful and harmonious relationships.

It’s also the colour that we connect to purity and to enlightenment, and somehow also neutrality, I would say.

So to me that means a kind of openness.

When I see white, I think anything is possible.

And when I wear white, it also signals something to other people (if only that I can sometimes eat without staining my clothes or know how to wash them so that you can’t see the traces ;)).

But you can also play around with this a little and see how it feels to you.

What happens when you look at a white piece of paper? Do you see openness or the pressure to do something?

Do you feel comfortable wearing white clothes? Or having white walls in your home? Or does it make you uncomfortable?

What do you think about white flowers or other white objects?

Are you a minimalist or a maximalist, or somewhere in between?

Everything we do and create, wear and choose in life says something about ourselves and can help us to learn something about ourselves.

And the same is true for our relationships.

As humans, we cannot be just in isolation, we always have to interact – and one of the most useful and I think life-changing realizations is that whatever we see in other people is always a part of ourselves.

We explore this very carefully and thoughtfully in the CREATRIX School, but if you’d like to start working on creating better relationships in your life right now, you can start here:

Whenever something about another person upsets you, it is you, yourself, that you are really upset about, and the part you don’t like about them, is really a part you’ve denied and abandoned within yourself.

So, from now on, whenever someone else upsets you, you can look inward to heal that aspect within, and once it’s healed you will find out that it won’t ever have the power to upset you again (we practice this in the GROWTH chapter).

Whatever you wish for in this world and in your relationship has always first to be found within yourself.

If you don’t feel appreciated by others, you have to first appreciate yourself, if you don’t feel respected, you first have to respect yourself – so if you’d like to find out how to do that, join us in the CREATRIX School.

The colour white can awaken purity and openness within. It can allow us to explore, receive and see with an open heart and practice kindness and compassion. 

A white room, filled with light, love and the right energies and can make us feel calm, but only if we are at peace with ourselves.

When we usually try to run away from ourselves with distractions, surrounding ourselves in other people’s energies and their problems, it’s an energy mismatch which makes us feel uneasy.

And we are all right where we need to be in life – the only thing that matters is that we are happy where we are – and don’t worry about what someone else likes or how they might want us to be. 

4. What can we contribute?

We each come with special gifts to this world, each of us is special and different, and that is incredibly wonderful.

When we combine all our gifts and use them to support each other, wonderful things can happen.

So it is essential, especially when it comes to creating healthy relationships, to not expect others to do, or want, or need the same things we do.

Like I said above, that which upsets us in others is for us to heal within ourselves.

When we give ourselves full freedom to be ourselves, it’s no problem to see others being different.

It’s only when we deny ourselves certain parts of being, that we also want others to deny these or other parts of themselves.

Once we’ve understood that and begin to live this way, we can each shine in our unique and special beauty because we won’t have to try to compete with others or force ourselves to fit in or be like someone else.

In the Wheel of Colours, the colour white shows us where we need other people the most and how the way we connect to others plays out in our lives, how we relate to them and how we let them relate to us.

Over time, by going through our lives, we can learn how to move from our default setting here, to a more balanced mode of interacting and connecting with others by developing a stronger sense of self (for those with white in the last half of their wheel) or a less strong sense of self and ego drivenness, for those with white in the first half of the wheel.

If we want to relate to others in peaceful ways, if we aspire to contribute in the best possible way to the evolution and expansion of human consciousness, then the colour white can help us by opening our hearts and inviting us to dive deep within, and meet ourselves, to plant peace and love and light deep in our core, so it can grow and shine from there and thus allow us to live in harmony with others.