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The Colour grey – Authenticity, equality, Honour & respect

The Wheel of Colours has 13 fields and 13 colours – each field represents a different challenge, gift or lesson which we have to master in our lifetimes and the colours in our unique wheel show each of us how we can master them best, with our unique abilities.

We are all made up of the same colours, but the colours are arranged differently for each of us on our wheels.

For example, grey is the colour for authenticity, equality, honour & respect.

It’s my favourite topic, as it is the colour of my sixth field, and the sixth field shows us the gift we came to share with the world.

There is so much potential here, but of course, it is also a complex topic and finding a good balance between honour and respect and authenticity is something that many people struggle with.

Questions that arise here are around what’s right or wrong, what’s worth more or less, and how each of us fits into this whole system and can find their place and freely flourish and shine.

For some of us, usually those who have grey at the beginning of their wheel, to honour and respect what or whom they engage with plays a big role in their lives, while others (those with grey in the second half of their wheel) have to learn to honour and respect themselves first to manage their internal lives.

Which is true for you?
You might be able to guess, looking at your life and how you feel.

But if you want to be sure, you may also order your unique Wheel of Colours from me, to find out.

If you have your wheel already and/or think you can use some help to learn how to best use the qualities of the colour grey, how to authentically be yourself and find honour and respect for yourself and others  – then I’d be happy to show you some practical ways to do that, in this article.

Every time you think that, you create inequality.

The only truth is, though, that everybody is on their path and no path is better or worse, as it provides us with exactly what we need to get where we want to go.

We are not more successful or less successful, all we are is our own kind of successful, every day.

Some might be more successful in love, some might be more successful in business, but everything just has the meaning we give to it and when we look at other people we only see what we want to see and project onto them as well.

So, if you, like me, were raised around a lot of western ideology and rational thinking, you were most likely not brought up or trained to think that we are all equal, that there’s nothing we have to protect or fight for and that we can have and be anything we wish for in life.

But if you’d like to explore how a life that makes everything you wish for possible for you, then I’d love to take you on that journey today.

Because there really is enough for all, there’s no reason to compete with another person – when we allow ourselves to follow our hearts and the guidance we receive from within, we will always be at the right place at the right time and begin to have all we could wish for and more.

We just have to find a way to recognize and see that, to be able to experience it as well.

1. How can I be authentically me?

Looking at the Wheel of Colours we get to ask some of the most important questions there are, which is why this tool so incredibly useful if we wish to lead a self-determined life.

So, what does it mean to be ourselves – authentically?

We have two ways of determining what we want in life. The first way is by experiencing and seeing what we don’t want so that we can create something else, the second way is to follow an inner knowing or hunch.

The second one is easier, if we have trained our access to it, until then, it’s harder. Once we have an inner knowing, we can check if it’s coming from love, not fear, and then we just have to follow it.

The first one involves trial and error, as when we know what we don’t want we often still have many options on the other side – but it’s still so worth investigating and finding out about everything we love, from breakfast, to work, to interactions with others, to how we spend our spare time – to meet and discover the sweet spot of where we meet our authentic selves, as opposed to our conditioned selves and with that pure happiness.

In the COMMUNITY Chapter of the CREATRIX School, we discuss the necessity of judgement in our lives to determine what we want for ourselves and what not – not to judge or condemn others – as they are merely there to help us decide what we would like to cultivate in our own lives.

Doing this more and more, whenever we are conscious about this option, to discern what works best for us and what doesn’t – is what allows us to become ourselves, authentically, eventually.

On the way, we will have to give up on comparison and caring about other people’s ideas and judgements altogether.

Only when we begin to enter the space where we can wake up in the morning and spend the whole day knowing exactly what we do and why – having everything set up exactly the way in which it pleases us the most – then we have begun to live an authentic life, and this is always automatically a successful life.

The Wheel of Colours can show us what we need in every situation and the colour grey teaches us that we are unique and different but equal.

To honour and respect others is important, the same way that it is to honour and respect ourselves – but instead of thinking that others are more right or wrong, more enlightened or less, more famous or less, we can begin to see that all that matters is our true satisfaction and happiness about our own lives, not how other people might see us.

Once we are at peace with ourselves, no criticism can touch us.

So, if we want to find our place in life & be authentic, then we need to bring up the courage to discover who we truly are and stop doing things to please others or our egos (things we do to prevent, avoid, or that are otherwise fear-based) and live only in the way that is truly fulfilling to ourselves.

Now I know that that’s easier said than done, and for that reason, we practice this in the CREATRIX School – because being fully there for ourselves first is the only way we can find freedom.

Imagine you could follow your heart in every moment.

Imagine that you could drop all the shields, let go of all the self-criticism and judgement, let go of all the voices that tell you, you can’t do what you would love to do, that keep you from following your dreams and instead tell you to do what’s rational, what other people do, what we all have to do.

What would that feel like? Do you even dare to imagine and really feel into that?

Your authentic self, lovingly says f*** you to all expectations and people who want you to be in certain ways, so they don’t have to question their own ways, and will help you to live a genuine, happy, fulfilled and thus automatically successful life – because it allows you to do what you love, to be at your best, and thus, you draw people and everything else you need to you instead of having to chase after them or it.

*According to the wheels I’ve made so far. I will update this occasionally.
The centre represents our core, our essence, the first six fields show the colours which come to us naturally, that we are born with, and the later ones represent the colours/lessons we have to learn, often painfully, to thrive in all areas of our life.

If you’d like to find out in which field the colour grey is especially important for YOU, order your Wheel of Colours now.

2. What am I worth?

So, we can find out who we are, what we need, by following our inner knowing or by trial and error, and we can get some valuable help from our Wheel of Colours as it reveals our essence and what we need and came to learn and share.

So once we have that (or know that it will be useful to work on finding out how we can live an authentic life) we also have to think about how we want to represent ourselves and enter into interactions with others.

And for that, it helps to think about what really defines our worth.

Therefore: What do you think defines your worth?

The family you were born into? The school you went to? Your certificates? The prizes you won for your work?

Your house? Your car? Your family? Your boat?

How can it be that famous personalities who’ve brought so much joy to people and, by common standards, have it all, still commit suicide or overdose on drugs?

If happiness or self-worth, success or contentment ever came from anything external, don’t you think somebody would have got it already and those who had a lot would all be happy?

If we strive for things to show what we’re worth, we are doomed to fail and will only find and experience more of what we know, just on a higher level.

If we have a negative outlook on things, if we don’t feel lovable, if we don’t understand how the world works or know what makes us happy, we won’t find that by the recognition or praise from others, or by more money or more things, we, each of us, no matter how rich or poor, will have to do the internal work to find their happiness and sense of purpose in life.

Your self-worth, and mine, and that of anybody else, can only come from one source, and that is within each of us.

We, each of us, has to understand that everything we wish for, we have to find within ourselves first so that it can manifest on the outside.

Once we begin to enter on this journey, we begin to see that what we wish for is often quite simple: peace of mind, love, beautiful sunsets, a touch, a look, the smell of a home-cooked meal made with love, seeing plants grow, and your kids grow up, creating something, enjoying the company of others.

What makes someone rich? Money? Or their experience and the knowledge that everything they wish for is already theirs?

See if you can really feel into this.

You can decide today that you will be the happiest person on earth and appreciate all around you so that you can actually be that – not a single thing outside of you has to change for that.

So who determines your worth, how other people treat and see you?

It’s only you.

If you apply for a job knowing that you can do what’s required and more, you already have the job, or it’s not the right job for you – if you have doubts about being able to do the job, or that they might not think that you have what it takes to do the job, you don’t stand a chance.

It’s what you believe about yourself that sets the tone, and that often matters more than formal qualifications – we might have to meet certain formal requirements to jump the first hurdle, but after that, it’s up to our internal beliefs.

Now, currently our world doesn’t reflect that, and we keep telling each other the story that we need qualifications or do certain things to get other things – and this makes life hard and difficult and many of our lives unhappy, as it is not the truth, and we could be living much more effortlessly – and for that, we just have to dare to do it.

I grew up in Germany, the country when it comes to formalities and bureaucracy. But what do we get from that? People who have wonderful abilities can’t do jobs because they were born in other countries and don’t have the right certificates.

People who have all the knowledge and willingness, but lack the paperwork, are not allowed to do an incredibly needed job.

It’s ridiculous and no one wins – quite the opposite.

Now, if we, you and me, both think that this is indeed ridiculous and that that should be changed, then we can start to do something about it – but for that, as well, we have to believe in ourselves enough to think that we can.

It’s the only way change ever happens – when two or more people say: “No more! We’re not going to tolerate this kind of suffering and hardship any more.”

So if you ever wondered what’s the most important thing to invest in – it’s not learning about the latest technology, it’s not learning another skill, it’s not buying this or that, or experiencing or doing one thing or another, it’s doing all you need to do to start believing that you can do anything you wish.

And I’m here to show you what you need for that, in the CREATRIX School.

The only difference between the person who works for ten Euros an hour and the one who charges 10,000 Euros, is that they know that they can.

And that place none of us reaches by listening to others, or looking at what they are doing and how, that place we only reach by getting to know ourselves and our true powers, finding God/Source Energy within and starting to do what we wish to do by listening to ourselves and God/Source Energy and all the other non-physical support available to us.

So, we have to define for ourselves what we are worth, what we charge for our work and how we want to be treated.

Just remember and see that the people who exploit are suffering as well.

The people who suppress others are suffering as well, the people who seem to be selfish and live a life of glamour and fame are not necessarily happy – only happy people are happy, no matter what they have.

There is no one else who gets a saying in what you should do or how you should live your life, even if it may seem so and people say so – if you were born into circumstances in which you feel you can’t be free, you were born to change them not to accept them in silent suffering.

Others might try to tell you so because it’s more convenient for them, but we always have the power to break free from that.

If you don’t know how, and don’t want to do it alone, you can learn how to do that in the CREATRIX School.

3. The Function of Honour and Respect

I’ve learned that the greeting Namaste means the divine in me sees the divine in you, or: “salutations to the (divine) child (in your heart)”.

This functions as a useful definition of what honour and respect can look like in our daily lives – we are all equal and different and can honour and respect that in each other.

We are all born at different times, in different places, to different families and experience and learn some of the same things, and some different things.

We are all differently from each other, so that, together, we can create wonderful and new things and don’t have to know and do it all.

If we all had the same abilities and knew the same things or wanted the same things, this world would be an incredibly boring place.

And it’s also great to see and recognize that some people might have already learned and experienced more of the things we would like to learn as well, so we can learn from them.

It’s great to look up to people as well, to see them as an inspiration, as looking at other people and recognizing good qualities or abilities in them can help us to discover and nourish these qualities in ourselves – it still doesn’t make them better or worse, it just makes them more knowledgeable or experienced in some ways.

But to enforce honour and respect is barely useful or soul nourishing.

Many of us have grown up in structures that still have some kind of authoritarianism about them, meaning that they accept bosses or people who have higher positions than others – and this is also fine if we’re in it to learn.

There’s no harm in starting somewhere to learn more to eventually raise in the hierarchy, as long as we look for what we want, and then find our way to get there and not just do things to get recognition from others, or to feel superior.

If we decide that in this lifetime we don’t want the responsibility of running our own business, that’s equally good as wanting to run our own business – as we need it all.

And there’s no harm, either, in changing our minds about what we think we want or what’s good for us and what isn’t – as we gain new information.

When I was in school, we had a girl who moved from Taiwan to Germany and who joined our school when we were maybe thirteen or fourteen.

She didn’t know a word of German but learned it all in no time and graduated as the best of our grade a few years later.

When she was asked what she wanted to do after graduating from High School, she said she wanted to work in a pharmacy – to much gasping and protest of many of our classmates.

Everyone said: “No, you should become a doctor with your grades!” and so on. But I, at that moment, saw something incredibly beautiful.

I had watched her learn German and understood that she knew how to learn – she wasn’t smarter than anyone else, she had just mastered the concept of organized learning – something none of us had ever learned.

She did the best she could to get through the German School experience and then sat down with her parents to find an occupation that would suit her and fulfil her, with her unique interests and abilities.

Seeing that possibility blew my mind.

While we struggled our way through school, not to meet ourselves, but to make something of ourselves that impressed others, learning what we were taught, whether it was useful or not, to get a certain grade average, to then find something to do we would get prestige and recognition for, completely detached from our individual needs and true powers, she was encouraged to find her unique place in this world.

I kept this memory with me because I knew that eventually I would be able to do the same, but at the time I had no idea how to make that happen.

Not because I didn’t think I could do it, but because I didn’t know how to feel free enough to break out of the expectations others had for me.

I saw how people reacted to her, and I didn’t know how to make other people understand that what I wanted wasn’t a random job I’m not interested in, money or a car, but to be free and me – and I had not yet understood that I would have to do that without getting the approval from those I loved.

At that time, I didn’t think I was allowed to make such a radical decision as to go for my own happiness, as I felt that I was responsible for the happiness of others – and I had never seen anybody (else) do it.

Even my classmate from Taiwan agreed to maybe study medicine instead, so that peace was restored in our school.

I don’t know if she really did it or just said it to calm people down, but I hope she is happy now.

I used this example as I think it illustrates the difficulty we all face, and what the qualities of the colour grey evolve around very well.

None of us children, growing up where I grew up, learned how to respect themselves, we learned to respect rules and the expectations of others.

Today, nothing about that has changed, sadly, but I’ve become so strong, and I’ve learned so much since then, that I now have the inner strength and power to not let those expectations decide over my fate any more – but can create my own destiny.

I do know now that the rules were set up for me to change them if they don’t suit me.

That to fulfil the expectations of unhappy people will not make me happy, but when I find my own happiness, I open up the opportunity for them to find the same.

Each of us is the most important person in our lives, and it is only our happiness and soul fulfilment that counts – not in a selfish way, but in the way that our happiness, fulfilment and free expression is what will bring most happiness and freedom, joy and fulfilment to EVERYONE around us as well.

In the last article on the colour orange, we looked at what’s good and bad and found out that this is up to us to decide and that things that might seem bad at first, can turn into a blessing, when we look at the bigger picture.

When we break common standards and rules, other people might think of it as bad, as it shows them that they have a choice, where they didn’t think they had one, and it might cause pain and chaos for a while, but eventually, it will spiral up to be what the intentions were set for – more joy and love, freedom and authenticity.

So we have to ask ourselves: What or whom do we honour and respect?

Do we honour and respect traditions, just because they are traditions, not because they serve us or anyone?

Do we honour and respect our parents, teachers, and elders, even when they don’t have our best interest in mind (because no one ever had their best interest in mind either)?

Or do we honour and respect our own calling, our needs, our wishes, our highest good and what’s actually best for everyone involved?

This is the only choice we have to make – because we are all different and equal.

Other people aren’t more right or wrong and always have the right to continue as they please, but that should never keep us from making the best choices for ourselves – as it’s only our authentic expression that will allow us to be happy and free.

Of course, things can also overlap.

I had wonderful elders in my life who helped me on my way and I have deep honour and respect for all who came before me because they changed what they could change, so we can change what, we think, needs to be changed now.

Wisdom and decisions for the highest good of all can come from all kinds of people.

But I will never do something, just because somebody else did it, if it’s not for the greatest good of all. I have always been like that, and it got me into a lot of trouble, when people just wanted me to behave like they would.

But it is also my gift, and I learned to honour it.

I will always fight for my own and everybody’s right to express and be freely, and do everything in my power to help anyone who wishes to do so get there as well.

This is my calling, my soul fulfilment.

We each have that, that one issue that is most important to us and that we want to see more of in this world.

And we can each find out what that is from looking at the sixth field of our Wheel of Colours – and then check if that resonates with what we feel.

The more we honour and respect what we have, what makes us unique, what lights us up and share that, the more what we are about will be valued by others, and thus we will feel better and everyone will benefit from that as well.

So the only relevant question when it comes to honour and respect is:

Does what we honour and respect serve the highest good of all?

4. How can we be equal and different?

Not that long ago, I wondered about why one would choose to be born with a disability that would make them need care and assistance all their life.

But the more I understood how our souls are not our egos, and how our souls make contracts, agreements with each other before they reincarnate, to learn and grow, expand and experience, this becomes more understandable.

We, our souls, want to practice humility, learn how to accept help, and learn how to help others, how to give and receive love and care and be self-less as well as self-full and aware.

And for that, we do need it all. If there weren’t people who needed our help, we could not practice how to grow beyond our ego needs.

I often think of a woman, I worked with, who’s Mum had already planned to get euthanized, if she ever ended up in a state of needing help or care and how her daughter respected and supported that.

I do think we have to respect other people’s choices and I guess I would do the same, but not without having a discussion about how there can be beauty in anything and everything, even in receiving care.

My feeling was and is that, it’s not a choice out of desire, but one of pride, or worthiness, as people might think they are worthless when they can’t contribute in the same ways others can, even though that’s never true.

We contribute in different ways – always.

There was a study that said almost all people find it easer to help others than to receive help, and it makes everyone incredibly happy when they feel they can support someone and have a positive impact on someone else’s life – so just remember that next time you are unsure about asking for help – you actually make people happy by allowing them to help you.

So when instead of caring for our elders, we put them in homes, we also miss out on what we would get to learn from the experience of taking care of them, and they miss out on what they can learn from receiving that care from the people they themselves cared for earlier on in life.

Maybe there’s fear involved, too, that they would, in fact, be treated in similar ways.

So, no matter what age, position, background or affiliation people have – they can be wise or not wise, people can know things or not know things and what they have to say or do can be more meaningful and less meaningful, all that depends on is what they themselves have nourished and grown within themselves so far in life.

In our world today, we tend to give respect to those in higher positions rather than to those who act wisely and kindly, but it’s up to each one of us to change that if we think that a changed approach would serve all of us better.

And likewise, we often value what’s scientifically proven more than that which becomes evident otherwise – yet, that doesn’t make it so.

The same way we, as humanity, still find it difficult to value all people in our own culture as equal, we also often think that people of other cultures are not equal.

But whatever we think or do does not change the fact that every person is indeed just as good as any other, and the only way we will personally gain something from every encounter is, when we recognize that whoever we have in front of us has something beautiful to share – not because of anything external, because of what they did or didn’t do, have or don’t have, but simply because they exist, and they are carrying the same source energy, the same divine light we carry ourselves – they are, in fact, the same as we, just in another form.

5. Using the colour grey in your environment

Now, grey is not necessarily a colour we want to have around ourselves too much, I think, though in combination with other colours it often creates exactly the balance that is needed.

Grey weather is depressing, grey offices are not exciting or beneficial to our moods, yet a black and white picture would never be able to express any depth without extensive use of grey.

We always have the two extremes, black and white, and then also all the shades in between.

Grey really shows us that everything is necessary, even a colour that might not be a personal favourite, but if it wasn’t there our lives just wouldn’t be complete or balanced.

As you can see below, I like to use grey on my website, as it can highlight and create contrast without taking the attention away from the thing it’s supposed to direct the attention to.

I also love my grey couch cover and pillow, as it creates the right mix and feeling together with the other colours.

Sometimes we want loud, and sometimes we want quiet, sometimes we want fast, and sometimes we want slow. Too much of a good thing becomes just too much and not a good thing any more.

And a world full of friendly, high-achieving individuals would not allow us to experience ourselves fully – we do need the contrast, the depth, the variety to grow.

When we recognize that, we begin to also become grateful for the good, the bad and the ugly in our lives, the challenges, the slip ups, the mistakes and illusions, as everything helps us to grow and to understand better what we want instead.

Whatever we don’t like gives us an opportunity to create something we do like.

So grey is the colour for balance, for experiencing joy in contrast, for honouring and respecting all there is and finding our unique way among all possibility. 

It can help us find the sweet point of respecting ourselves and others equally, allowing everyone to do what’s best for them – so that we can come together, each with our unique gifts and knowing how to use them well and for the highest good of all.

I found this Prayer the same day I finished writing this text, and thought it might fit very well:

~ A Traditional Náhuatl Prayer