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What have we learned in this chapter?
Dear Creatrix,
Today we review and see how we can really integrate all that we’ve learned in this chapter.
Do you remember what we did in the first week?
We started with a body scan: checking in to see how our body feels, what feels different in the morning and evening and to maybe also listen in during the day and ask it why it is feeling certain ways.
How is your body feeling right now?
After that, we wrote down all the things we don’t like about our bodies to say goodbye to these negative thoughts.
Our feelings and emotions are our way of communicating with our soul, our essence and our highest self and knowing, and this communication is so simple, that people dismiss it way too often.
When a thought feels good, it is good and it reflects our true nature.
If a thought does not feel good, it is not good, and it reflects the negativity we’ve learned from the society around this.
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Now if we follow this logic, all negative thoughts we ever had about ourselves: our insecurities, our diseases, our diagnoses, the limitations we perceive about ourselves – are not our own.
They are only a reflection of what we’ve learned from the people in our lives, from the way society has told us to be, or from how we thought we needed to be to please others.
Negative thoughts are never true and never useful.
We will go much deeper into forgiveness next month, but we can start today, again, by coming back and simply releasing the insecurities and fears we have about our bodies and ourselves, because they are not real, they keep us at a distance from who we really are, even if they feel real as we are so used to having them.
They don’t serve us, we don’t need them, and we can let them go as soon as we feel ready to do so.
Now, take a moment to think back to how you felt before you started this course.
What has changed?
We started to get a better feeling and understanding of our body and looked at how we can be more kind to ourselves. And we can even take that one step further.
Instead of looking at ourselves through the eyes of a critical person, the critical person we used to be, we can start to look at ourselves like god would see us: perfect and loveable, always.
We can begin to practice unconditional love, with ourselves and accept us for who we are and how we are and come to understand that everything that we are is perfect and loveable and forever there and beautiful.
If you’d like to really explore this, pull your chair back, close your eyes, and simply allow yourself to love yourself. Feel the love you generate take over your whole body.
Now, if you like, and I do really recommend this, you can add this to your daily body scan. Before or after, do what feels good to you.
But practice being in this space of unconditional love and acceptance once a day. Tell yourself that you love yourself. And watch what unfolds from there.
This might feel weird in the beginning, but really see how you can find a way to enjoy it: A minute to yourself where you appreciate all of you.
Because you are a wonderful, magical, amazing, surprising, fantastic human being.
You are the best you that ever was, every day.
And from now on, the more you see yourself as a perfectly loveable, loved, wonderful human person, with nothing to fear or apologize for, the world is truly yours.
Everything you need to make every day your best, you have inside you. No matter what anybody else might say or think or do.
You can always come back to that connection of pure love that is our connection to source and that connects us to all there is.
It is our most precious gift, and it can never be taken from us.
But over many years of not looking at it and using it, it might have become shy, afraid and weak. It is there, though, and the more you practice and love yourself, the stronger it becomes.
Often people say life is a dance. And I agree. It’s never a straight line.
When we start building this strong and loving connection to ourselves, we create the place from which to start this dance.
And it’s the place to always return to and recharge our energies. How does that feel?
In the last lesson, we talked about seeing how we can get a feeling for other people around us, and to see them and feel them beyond their ascribed markers, such as their gender, job or their skin colour.
What is someone’s personality?
What is it that makes them tick?
That brings them joy?
And what is that for you?
And this is where we can come into balance.
When we begin to feel ourselves and love ourselves and trust ourselves, we can safely dance out to meet others who do the same.
We close our eyes, we sit, we breathe, we feel, we love ourselves.
And then we open our eyes and see another from this place of wholeness. Where we don’t have to project or want, but can purely observe and busk in the joy of their unique existence.
Because we have understood that everything is and will always be there, and we are here to enjoy it.
Isn’t it wonderful to marvel about the unique existence of someone else?
How they have this incredible body to feel and sense and express and experience. How we have toes and hairs that can stand up, eyes that can see and shine and smile and cry.
And isn’t it amazing and perfect that we all have that? That our lives are so full of joy and miracles every single day?
That we can appreciate the sunshine or the rain, the trees, the clouds, the smell of fresh baked bread, the feeling of our cosy beds and the touch from a loved one?
Isn’t it amazing to see someone’s face light up with a smile?
Every single day, we have the power to create a smile, or many, on other people’s faces with a kind word, a gesture or just taking a moment to see the cashier in the supermarket as a person, a unique individual and not as their function.
We create our days by choosing how we interact with ourselves and others.
If we start by loving ourselves, by resourcing ourselves, by being there for ourselves, we will thrive. You will thrive. And love and enjoy.
If you wish, every single moment every day.
Just don’t let anyone or any thought ever stop you again.
Negative thoughts, and criticism, have no meaning. They are useless. Which doesn’t mean that it’s bad that you had them, you didn’t know any better and did what every one else around you was doing. You can meet that with compassion.
But it’s your life. And it’s all here for you to enjoy it. What you think, you create – so just see that you choose your thoughts more and more.
And then I’d like to know how your new workout routine is going.
Have you made a commitment? Have you changed anything in the way you exercise, or care for your body? What has changed, and what are you going to continue with?
Because this chapter really combines our mental and physical spheres.
We changed how we think about ourselves, our bodies, and then we also started using our bodies, our gifts for our time here on earth, so that they can remain or become more healthy.
