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More letting go and some New Ideas on Healing & Change
Dear Creatrix,
I hope you enjoyed the first week of the BODY chapter and the ritual and prayer, and that you feel empowered and more free because of it.
And I hope you also had some fun thinking about all the ways in which your body supports you, and with exploring your body’s sensations more in general.
In the last week, we looked at how we think about our bodies, we explored how connected we feel to our bodies, and what our awareness and ‘now’ is, in terms of our body and how we move in this world.
We investigated how we see our body and how our body might be seen by others, and we’ve juxtaposed the things we are unhappy about, with the ones we enjoy and are grateful for, to really see that we might have a lot more to be grateful for than to complain about. 💕
And we found a way to say goodbye and release the negative thoughts we might have had about our bodies to move on feeling lighter and freer.
We did this, so that from now on, we can spend the rest of our days here on earth appreciating and being grateful for our bodies and centre around and align ourselves with the things we enjoy and want more of – when it comes to our bodies and our time on this planet and in physical form.
Because the more we do this, the more we open up to love and exploration, the more we will find to enjoy, and with that, the more joy we will feel and the better our lives will turn out to be. ☀️
But I know that saying goodbye to limitations that we’ve experienced all our lives can feel difficult, as there is also attachment to it. Feeling unhappy about our body can also feel safe, as it might be all we know.
So just acknowledge that for now, and be gentle. And also make sure that you see all that we’re doing, the exercise and the ritual from the last lesson, and everything you’l continue to learn, as a starting point.
I’m saying this, so you are not disappointed or feel like you are doing something wrong if it’s not all gone or perfect after the first week.
Every little bit that we feel better counts and makes our lives more joyful and free.
But these processes can take years, really, so be kind, patient and gentle with yourself.
You’ve started now, you’ve opened the door, so more positive experiences will come.
To continue, I will share a bit more about my own journey and what else helped me get to feel at home in my body.
It feels a bit like circling around the same topic, but it often needs that, to fully land.
And I feel like I’m a great example to show you how to move from experiencing disconnection, dislike, fear and insecurity to discovering and living with more love, acceptance and confidence.
Because I was so disconnected from my body for most of my life. I really hated it. I hated that my body limited me, I hated that it offered space for others to judge me, and my relationship to my body, really, just showed the relationship I had to life – I hated it and didn’t want to be a part of it – because I didn’t know how to make it fun or how to be happy with what was – until I started to change things for myself.
So I will use my own experiences to show you how we cannot only change our self-image by beginning to change our beliefs and thoughts about life, but also our health and our physical appearance.
Because we’re not limited in any way.
And we will start by thinking about the way we were raised again, or how we grew up.
I grew up thinking that it was my destiny to look like other members of my family when I’m older.
And I believed that my fate was somehow determined by my genes or what I inherited and that some of the misfortunes, like physical weakness or disease, were things I might have to arrange myself with for the rest of my life.
But this is a myth.
It might be a common myth, but it is still a myth.
While there are certain features and things we will hardly be able to change, like how tall we are, or our skin colour, missing limps, or the essential structure of our hair – though all of that may be possible as well, if you have a very strong desire and are willing to invest a lot – other things like our health are actually quite easy to change, once we know how.
And the things that are difficult to change are difficult to change for a reason as well. The reason is, that those changes might not actually make us happy, improve our well-being and our life, or help us find soul-alignment, after all, our souls chose to be born into exactly the body we were born into for a reason.
(I do feel like I have to say that this is in no way meant to speak against people who choose to transition – it is not. Those souls, also consciously chose to transition, to help our world open up to the fluidity and transformation that is possible and necessary when it comes to gender roles, and to make us all aware of the limitations we live with now. But we each have to feel into that for ourselves, and explore what feels right for our unique journey. More often than not, we think things like: I would be happy if I looked like a model, or if I was taller, or if my nose was more straight – but happiness does not come from these things, it comes from within and then shines outwards.)
So we will focus here on the things that we can change quite easily, and that can also bring us more happiness, such as our level of fitness, our strength, certain body features, like our hair, or skin, our health, and our destiny.
And to achieve that, we start with thinking about why we are the way we are now.
Because while we might have grown up thinking that we look the way we do because of our genes, we can now come to realise that how we look and move in the world has a lot more to do with family traditions, our habits and routines than with our genes.
Because these traditions have taught us what to eat, how to sleep and move, how to breathe and think and how to interact with this world – mostly in unconscious ways.
Learning how to breathe differently helped me from needing pain medication and barely being able to move on my first period days (like my mum and other members of my family) to only light symptoms. It’s really amazing to see how much breathing alone can change.
And then, apart from the family traditions we grew up with, we also grew up with cultural traditions.
These could be things like whether beer bellies are sexy or not, or moustaches, or if women are supposed to be skinnier or more full of joyful flesh to look healthy or desirable.
These standards vary from culture to culture and region to region, so there’s really no right or wrong here – people can be healthy and joyful in all kinds of bodies – despite or within cultural norms, if we love ourselves in our bodies and also feel loved by those around us.
And then, later in life, we often also have the opportunity to open up even beyond what we experience in our home countries and can explore anything that we are interested in, about health and well-being, but overall, we still often only learn about a fracture of all that is possible.
Wherever we look, we learn what’s common or normal.
And as long as we don’t make the conscious choice of seeking out something else, we might expect what appears to be true to others to be true for us as well.
We may think that what is possible for some, is not possible for us because we don’t have the same means.
I grew up seeing celebrities magically recover more quickly from surgeries or pregnancies than regular people, and I realized that they had access to information that other people didn’t. So I was determined to find out what they knew – however long it may take me. But I did not want to accespt that inequality in access to information and that they weren’t inherently differnt, they just did things differntly or saw them differntly.
But as that was before the internet, it took time to get there. So for most people it was and still is rare to come to the realization or to bring it to our awareness that what is possible for the most extraordinary people, is also possible for us.
Please pause here and let that sink in.
What is true for the most extraordinary people can also be true for you.
There are many people out there, like Louise Hay, Dr. Joe Dispenza or Anita Moorjani, who have healed incurable diseases or who have overcome physical disabilities that no one thought possible, and they are now teaching others and have taught me, how to do the same.
We just have to decide that we want to try what else really is possible for us.
When you get a diagnosis from a doctor, you can accept it, or not. That’s your free will. However, that decision will change everything about what happens after it.
Everything is possible if we believe it is and think and act accordingly.
I remember watching a documentary as a child, with someone who had cancer and the doctors gave him a few weeks to live – but he was dead-set on seeing his children graduate over ten years later – and he did, and no doctor could explain why or how. Because he did it without medication, simply by deciding on his fate.
Even as a child, I knew the truth in this, even though I did not know how to use that then. But I kept that memory because I knew I would need it later — now.
So many studies have been done with placebos, that underline this point.
People who had knee problems, got cut open and put together again, without operating on the knee, and if I recall correctly, all of them felt better and thought their knee problems were healed after. Or at least many of them.
There are so many studies on this that you can do some research on if you are interested. Also on energy healing and how it works.
The intentions and the belief matter more than any modality.
So, if we change our thoughts and the way we interact with the world, we can make a lot more possible than we might have ever dared to imagine.
We really have the power to create the reality we desire – regarding our health, our life-expectancy our joy about life in this body and anything else – as long as we align with our souls.
And that includes that we can heal ourselves with our beliefs and thoughts alone (as we also made ourselves sick with our beliefs and thoughts alone).
We often experience the same health issues as other family members, or look like the rest of our family because we think and behave in the same way, live in the same or similar environments, eat and breath in the same or similar ways and so on.
When our parents tell us what all other people around us tell us as well, that certain things make us sick, then we believe that, and we see evidence for it because everything we believe is automatically true, as we create our reality according to our beliefs.
And this way we recreate what is normal or common for people like us, as long as we are on autopilot. We experience the same health issues, we experience the same pains and fears – because we all co-create the same reality.
But we can also choose to break out of it any time.
Have you ever noticed that people in certain countries age in the same way?
I remember a (possibly sexist) man, another student during an exchange program, telling me that he’s not interested in dating Russian women because they don’t age well.
This also stayed with me. Because there was some truth to it. Many of the young Russian women were super skinny, but at a certain age, they all shifted into a different body form, seemingly without exception.
Watching another documentary a few years later, about a Russian woman who had migrated to the US as a teenager and, as a 50-year-old, looked like other American women, came to the same conclusion as she travelled back to her roots. All the people she grew up with looked like her mum and previous generations – while she didn’t.
This might be because of the food, but I feel a part of it is also because of what we ‘expect’ we will look like.
Another interesting question is this:
Why do people stay healthy and get very old in some places and not in others?
In the past, this also was often associated with the thought that people have the same genes, but people who leave and live in different places, have the same genes, yet age differently from them, so it can’t be that, it depends on the circumstances, the food, the air we breathe, and the expectations we have about our lives.
And what we can learn and see from this is that:
