Start Living your Best Life with Self-Actualization Coaching

Self-Actualization Coaching is designed to help you to start living your best life.

Born out of the positive psychology movement, Self-Actualization Coaching focuses on how positive changes can be achieved, rather than why things are the way they are and what caused them.

With this approach, it offers an alternative to traditional therapy and can be especially useful to those, who have not reached the results they hoped for with psychoanalysis or cognitive behavioural therapy.

It is practical, works with small and concrete steps, which can cause significant changes and can help anyone to work towards becoming the best version of themselves, and to develop and explore their full potential.

How to start your Future Self Journal

Why write a future self journal? Because the more you imagine your ideal future self as a real person, the easier it becomes to become that person! Download a free cheat sheet to get you started!

Not Different, Just Love

It’s pride month, and, inspired by an interview I listened to, I thought, that I, and maybe you too, could do with a bit more clarity, and love, when it comes to dealing with our emotions, expectations and responsibilities, around coming out, but also when it comes to our families and love in general.

Which Side are You on? How to Make the Most Important Decision of Your Life.

How can we make the most important decision of our lifetime, when for most of us, most of the time it does not feel like we’re deciding at all?

It feels more like things have been decided, the choices have been made, and that we are dealing with the consequences.

Why starting is the most important thing.

As an eight-year-old, when I woke up in the morning, I knew exactly what the most important thing was for me to do.

My friends and I would meet outside our school building to talk about everything that had happened in the 18 hours since we last saw each other. I could not wait to …


Everything you find here, has been carefully selected to support you to live a happy, healthy and successful life, that is filled with LOVE.

I believe there is nothing more important than that we learn how to take very good care of ourselves and find ways to live as our true and authentic selves. I hope this serves you well.

If you find this useful, please help spread the word and share it with other people. Thank you! ❤️

D.I.Y. Deodorant

D.I.Y. Deodorant

Photo by Dana TentisThis recipe is incredibly easy and works perfectly for me. I've made my first patch a couple of weeks ago, have been using it every day and there has been no odour developing, even though it's warm here now most of the time. Simply mix an equal...

How can you best be of service to this world?

How can you best be of service to this world?

What does it look like to be of service to the world?
I wake up happy, I go to bed happy. I get so much more done in a day than I ever would have imagined.

I’ve solved a washing machine problem this morning, tended to my plants, had breakfast, planned for some future articles, checked my emails and danced a little in the kitchen.

In no way would this have been possible a year ago.

Neo-Nazis in Ukraine

Neo-Nazis in Ukraine

It’s a scary feeling to have a war so close to home, something that I never hoped to experience. As a sensitive child who has heard many horrible stories about the first two world wars from my great-grandma and my grandparents, it was always my biggest fear.

I still remember the panic I had when I saw submarines practising in the Baltic Sea in the nineties when the war was going on in Yugoslavia and how I couldn’t stop crying. And how my Mum kept saying that it wasn’t here, that they’re not fighting here, but how I was unable to feel that separation.

3 Strategies to Help You Define Your Core Values

3 Strategies to Help You Define Your Core Values

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony." - Mahatma Gandhi I posted this quote on Instagram yesterday because I thought it is a great reminder when it comes to aligning yourself with your Core Values. Why do we need to define...



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Dear Future Self

a journey into the unknown

If you have any comments, suggestions or questions, write me or book a free call with me.


Course Recommendation:

A Magical Year invites you on a twelve-month journey full of exploration, love and liberation.

Rediscover your home, your relationships, think about your life’s purpose, refresh your senses and views. Deepen your sense of belonging, explore new ways to see old patterns, and tap into a loving and liberated celebration of life.

You are unique. You are perfect. You are a gift. And our World needs you.

Coaching Packages

Self-Actualization Coaching is a fantastic, safe and very accessible way to help you figure out and reach your individual goals.

Together, we will create clarity, see what might have been blocking you and find out how you can organize your thoughts and your life in a way so it relieves you from unnecessary responsibilities and stressors and lets you refocus on the things that really matter to you.

Archetype Posters

Working with archetypes is a wonderful way to get to know ourselves better. Archetypes can be helpful to recognize where we are at in life and to take our actions less personally.

I got inspired to create some illustrations of some of the archetypes, to accompany the work, which you may now buy as posters (PDF) for your home, as well.

Find out how you can Start to Live your Best Life

with Self-Actualization Coaching

Getting Started is Easy


book Discovery call

Apply for a free, safe and confidential 30-min zoom meeting to see if working together is a good fit.

set up schedule

If we decide to work together, you can book a package of 3, 6 or 10 sessions and we'll set up a schedule for your needs.

become your best self

Let's overcome old patterns & build new routines - It's challenging & fun and will bring you more clarity, love & freedom.


For two years I lived in Ukraine, many of the people I met became close friends, we stayed in touch for more than 20 years now. They have always been negatively impacted by structural racism, and now they have to deal with a war as well. If you can, please support.



John Ron has noted that“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Now, if you are just entering into the process of changing your life for the better, it might be difficult to attract new people into your life, who could have a positive influence on you. They will find you, when the time has come, though. Until then, you can surround yourself with books and podcasts – and spend as much time with inspirational people as you wish. It works the same way. Their way of thinking and seeing the world will have an impact on you and will support you on your journey.

Most of the books, podcasts, apps and films I introduce here are available for free, or at a low price. Everything I recommend had a big impact on my life. Get inspired!

The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind

The Boy Who Harnessed The Wind

Film: The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind (2019)Director: Chiwetel EjioforWriters: Chiwetel Ejiofor (adaptation), William Kamkwamba + Bryan Mealer (based on the book by)Stars: Chiwetel Ejiofor, Maxwell Simba, Felix Lemburo The story of William Kamkwamba – a young schoolboy...

4 Remarkable E-waste Recycling Companies

Let's take a look at 4 Recycling Companies, doing an incredibly good job and see what we can learn from them:   If you haven't done so already take a look at the post "Recycling e-Waste - What We Can Do to Help" to find out more about e-Waste and the problems and...


We are all perfect. We are all connected. We are better together.

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Exhibitions, Events & Publications

Queer Art? @ EU-R CSF

Queer Art? @ EU-R CSF

EU-Russia Civil Society Forum/ Гражданский Форум ЕС-Россия: „1989-2019. Reflecting Europe. Am 5.-6.12.2019 trafen wir uns im Berliner Haus der Statistik um Bilanz zu ziehen und in die Zukunft zu schauen: Wie klang 1989? Woran haben wir uns in diesem Jahr erinnert und...

Ausstellung: Drawings/Connections

Ausstellung: Drawings/Connections

Datum: 14.06.2019 – 7pmOrt: FrauenNachtCafé, Mareschstr. 14, 12055 Berlin About Drawings/Connections Verena Spilker is a queer artist from Berlin. Her drawings of animals, landscapes and moments build a connection between the object and the observer. She explores the...


Practice a year full of exploration, love and liberation.


Interview: Pelican Bomb

Interview: Pelican Bomb

Queer Traces: Transnational Queer Underground’s #TheGalleryProject Ben Miller talks with Verena Spilker about a Berlin-based project that raises questions about how to create more inclusive archives and how communities can form through art. When queer people express...

Interview: Sleek Magazine

Interview: Sleek Magazine

Transnational Queer Underground is an artist platform dedicated to bringing artists from all over the world together and making queer voices be heard. In times when LGBTQ people are still being persecuted and even murdered as reported in Chechnya, forming a strong...

Interview: FELGBT

Interview: FELGBT

We talk with Verena, the creator of Transnational Queer Underground “#TheGalleryProject is a transnational repository of queer art open to everyone. Collages, comics, paintings, photographs, performances and installations –among other formats– participate in such an...